Am I overreacting or being overly sensitive?

I apologize for this being so long.

I feel like I worked really hard for Mothers’ Day and was not appreciated by my husband. I took care of all gifts for both mine and my husband’s mom and grandmothers, including helping my 3 y/o paint 5 flower pots.

I asked him if he thought we should host since our previous house was too small to do so and we haven’t hosted anything in a few years. He said he thought it was a great idea. So, I proceeded to invite everyone. It turned out to be about 20 people coming, which was way more than I expected, but some extended family came into town.

I proceeded to bake, dice and shredd 23 chicken breast for chicken salad, make a boatload of pasta salad with tons of veggies cut up into it, a veggie tray, pimiento cheese, banana pudding and chocolate peanut butter squares. He took a 3 hour nap.

I cleaned the kitchen, den and bathroom and swept all of the tile and hardwood floors. He mowed the grass, cleaned the living room and vacuumed.

Now we get to the issue. He did not thank me or help much with clean up after the luncheon; However, he feels he did as much as I did and that I am diminishing his contributions. He said I got myself into it and it was my choice to make the food when I could have purchased everything. I did not mind making the food. I enjoy cooking and considered it part of my gift to our mothers and grandmothers.

I was very hurt by this because I feel I did not get much respect or appreciation for being the mother of his child. I told him last night that I was hurt and it spiraled into an argument, so I dropped it. I will probably not bring it up again, but I would like unbiased opinions from uninterested parties.

What really surprises me about all of this is he is genuinely a good guy and usually reasonably thoughtful toward me.