Are these people sick? Or is it me?

Let me see if I can make this short. While dating my girlfriend she told me about her father. She has had this discussion with other friends and have dismissed their answer’s. Conversation starts like this… You know I have been adopted and I love my father….. Then she begins to tell me about the wonderful father she has had. She was adopted at the age of 6. Her father basically attached her to his hip. Being from mexico as a child. He started to tell her (teach her) that the mexican tradition is that the youngest in the house stays home to help and care for the parents for the rest of their lives. He would wake her in the morning to “teach” her how to cook. And would always tell her “this is what you do for your man”. This was a common theme with him. He would take her to the mall sit her down and show her what a good man was and what a bad man was. I believe he was doing to opposite. Say the bad was good. And the good was bad. This way she could never find a good man and there by have to stay home. She was kept home schooled till high school. By her dad and mother. By the way they are both law enforcement. And, when she was ready for high school the father almost divorced the mother due to his refusal to let her go. My Girlfriend cooked, cleaned, gave him manacures/pedicures as he requested her to do so. The hook to all this is she told me that up to the age of 24 he would take her shopping for clothing and longeine. Then bring her home sit on the bed and watch her undress and dress, trying everything on. Sometimes he would get up and hug her while she was dressed, sometimes he would do it while she was undressed (naked). He did this with his other daughter too. There were a few examples when he would “accidentally” walk out of the bathroom naked in front of her. I believe he did such a good job of brainwashing her that even when she went to high school and would talk about her family. When she got to the subject of her father. All her friends would say that behavior was wrong. My Girlfriend would dismiss it and still does. Even when she did go to therapy for other issues and the discussion of the father came up. The therapist would tell her his behavior was wrong. This would cause her to stop going. He is in law enforcement, his job is to get back children for parents that feel they have to take their child and leave the state. To add suspicion to it. They come off as nothing but child hordes. (her parents) besides the children her adoptive mother gave birth to. They have this desire to adopt. THey actually at one time tried to get my wife to take care of a child they wanted to adopt. They eventually adopted the child only to have my wife breast feed the child. One child they adopted as an infant was kicked out of the house by the age of 15. They felt she was too sexually active. Of course my Wife tends to relate to men with the father figure attitude. But since her father raised her to be his boyfriend. When she associates with men, thank god it never became sexually. Her dad really worked hard to derail that desire in her. But, she would relate to men as her father, and the end result was these men would see her as a girlfriend. This has caused many a problem in her life. Here sister who is 20 has slept with every man from the mexico border to LA. And has a “disrespect” for men. She finds in having abusive sex towers the man she is with. Her being the abuser. One brother is a drunk and the other like a live for today attitude. No desire to develop a future have been straight forward about these issues with her. But she holds on to the “good” things her father has done for her. She cant / refuses to get around the facts of the matter. The question is….. Am I over reading things? As a side note…. She did get married before me. But it was an abusive relationship where her ex had total control over her. To the point that twice he got another woman pregnant and my girlfriend decided the best thing to do was raise these children her own. She was threatened that if she did not do this they would be aborted. As that relationship went on he has forced sex on her (raped) to get her pregnant to try to keep her from leaving home. She was not allowed to drive a car. But she did get a license any way. But , when she she finally left. She had to leave with nothing. House was not in her name, no credit cards or bank accounts. No ownership of a car. She is a VERY strong woman. Families only help to her was to try to get her back into the bubble she was in. I believe her parents did not want her to leave that prison due to it exposing the family secret. Also, she never left the county she lived in. until I met her. Never been to mexico, or any place. Her father would always tell here everyplace but the town she lived in was VERY dangerous. She now sees otherwise.