Let's cut to the chase...those of you who have sex with men, what's you're preferred penis size?

OK, first off, men are by definition insecure about the size of their penises. If you don’t believe me, you’ve probably never considered why in war we fire penis shaped missiles at each other. And men get a lot of conflicting information on this topic.

If you ask this of a medical person, the answer is that the average length is between 4 and 7 inches. You will also hear that the flacid penis has no relation to the size of the erect penis. Well, that’s all well and good, but no one seems to be able to point out any data on this that isn’t self-reported. Are guys exaggerating, or not giving themselves enough credit? Who knows. And besides, what kind of answer is “between 4 and 7 inches”. That strikes me as a pretty big difference!

In popular culture, dick jokes are de rigeur. One of my favorites was on SNL, Tim Meadows’ “Ladies Man” character once answered a call and the caller said he was worried that maybe his penis was to small. The Ladies Man responded, “Medically speaking, just how dinky is your wang?” And when the guy responded something like 4 inches, the Ladies Man was shocked, taken aback, and said, “OK, I was not expecting you to say anything less than 9 or 10 inches…you need to see a doctor right away.”

If you ask women, they’ll tell you it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean, or some other trite, simplistic dismissal of your question, and to a degree, it’s true that it’s all in how you use what you’ve got, but seriously, what guys want to know is what women like. And with all this conflicting information around, this answer isn’t helpful. So, for men everywhere, I ask this question.

How small is too small? How big is too big? What is the “acceptable range” and within that range, what is the target size or size range. Now I’m sure preferences are different, I’m just looking for a sampling from a group of people who have shown themselves to be completely frank and unafraid to answer the difficult questions of our time. And of course, I’ll welcome gay men to answer this question as well, it will be interesting to compare and contrast the numbers.

I ask this as a service to all men…of course, ahem, cough, I’m not in the slightest bit curious myself you know…sigh…I’m just, ummm…yeah, I’m completely secure in MY studliness sigh, ahem, I just want to help out my fellow man here.

And of course, I welcome discussion about not just length, but width/circumference, shape, circumsized vs. uncircumsized, etc. And as an aside, does anyone care about the size of the flacid penis? Does it bother anyone if a guy’s a grower not a shower? So let’s have some fun with this…maybe by helping an insecure man feel better about himself, or alternately by making him get the medical attention he needs depending on the answers we get.