How do you deal with Strict Parents?

Im 14 years old… and my parents think that 9:30 is a reasonable curfew. If i don’t make my bed once… i have to make my brothers bed for three days…the only room we can eat in is the kitchen. My older brother (17) gets away with murder but oh no not me. Im not allowed to use the house phone because of my moms Business… and then when my cellphone bill comes i have to pay for it! Im only allowed to have one sleepover a week. During the SUMMER. And during the school year its like one every two weeks. My step dad wakes everyone up at 5:30 every sunday to clean our rooms! Can’t hang out on school days except friday. Can’t have more than one friend over at a time. All my dad ever does is ground me.. yell at me.. make me do things for him.. i can’t stand him.
I really want things to change but my parents just don’t listen. They treat me and my brother SO differently and i know it’s not because of the age as when i spoke to him about it, he said he has always been relaxed with him. My brother just laughs at me. He gets a kick out of it.
How does everyone else cope with strict parents???