What Do you do when your friends who have been your friends for years aren't there when you need them the most?

I recently went through a bunch of things with my husband, he was in the hospital and the doctors were telling me he might have cancer. I called friends and family, my family was there but my friends (who have been my friends for going on 10 years) seemed to care less. One of them couldn’t walk out side of a loud bar when I called her crying and needing to talk to someone. My other friend made a joke about it. My husband is cancer free but I feel different about my friends, am I over reacting or am i right for wanting to write them off?! Oh and to top it all off my friend at the bar…. she hasn’t called back to see if my husband has cancer or not ( it’s been two weeks on wed.)