What's weird energy with other people about? (in my case, a sexual question)

Asked by kevbo (25672) November 9th, 2009 from iPhone

Do you ever get a hit of weird energy from people you’ve just met? Something that precedes any meaningful interaction that you’ve had with them? (Feel free to post your own story even if it is unrelated to my question below.)

I’ve been dancing around how to ask this question because my little situation is puzzling. I have a female friend whom I’ve known casually for a year or two but have never really socialized with beyond happening to work together on local theater shows and attending a handful of the same parties. She’s a really thoughtful and supportive person—good friend material—pretty gushy with conversation, and dresses pretty plainly and conservatively, but also has a bit of a wild side with some drug and relationship drama (she’s also an adult child of an alcoholic and mildly OCD), although I’ve never really dealt with that side of her. I just know the thoughtful, friendly (and gushy) side.

She’s also someone whom I really (and honestly) don’t find compellingly attractive, and she’s not at all my type. But here’s the thing… when I get around her, I feel a very unusual (for me) compulsion to throw her down and have dirty, rough, dominant sex with her. Even with girls who I think are hot, I don’t break out in spontaneous physiological response, but that happened in my most recent interaction with her. It’s as if there’s some kind of manic vortex between us or that (and say this with hesitation) I was her rapist in a past life. Part of it, I think, is related to her chatter—like I want to shut her up with sex.

There are many women in my life who I think about getting with, but a) I find them attractive, and b) I have far more self control when it comes to interacting with them. But in this case I feel like a rabid dog that is on the verge of breaking its chain. I’ve never really experienced this set of circumstances before. WTFF?