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I'm attracted to someone who works for me - what to do?

Asked by ftp901 (1318points) November 27th, 2009

At work I supervise someone who I think is my perfect match. I’m female and older than him and I’ve been working with him for a year. So far, I have given him no hint because I feel a responsibility to act professionally at all times and I don’t think it would be appropriate – it is a somewhat uptight office environment.

However, what I feel is more than attraction, it is an admiration that has developed over time as I’ve gotten to know him and learn more about his personality. I’m continually surprised and delighted by some of the things he says and does. Basically, he’s everything I would want in a partner (intelligent, thoughtful, reliable). I meet someone like that about once every 5 years.

So, shouldn’t I seize the opportunity for love even though it isn’t an ideal situation? This person’s job does have an end date so there will come a time within the next year when we will no longer be working together.

What would you do in this situation? and what would you say?

If you were in your 20’s and your supervisor (in her 30’s) asked you out, wouldn’t you think that is creepy? I know I would if it were the other way around (which is why I have kept my mouth shut so far).

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