How can a dominant person let a more quiet one still have a say? How can a dominant person not turn into a dictator and still consider the needs of others?

I have a more bossy dominate personality. When in a group, it seems most people fall to my lead like dominoes and obey every “order.” Even when there’s a discussion I find people looking my way for a “its ok to talk” nod. How do I break this commander-foot solider relationship?

I like hearing what other people have to say. I enjoy hearing input from others. I merely want to take time management into account and see the team on a whole and individual level fulfill full potential, all the while turning out quality work – I don’t wish to play monarch. When full grown adults start asking for permission to go the bathroom, my enjoyment in directing goes to level 0.

Is there something in my body language that says “dictator”? How do I get team members to see I’m just another member with more responsibility? That I’m just there to make sure things stay on track? Teamwork is required several times a week of me, so its weighty problem.