Are 1st generation sons of immigrants That don't speak much, not part of any Culture?

i’m in my 30s male. I’m born in USA son of hispanic parents.

I feel like i don’t fit in any culture. Hispanics and Americans try to place me as being part of the hispanic culture.. But i dont really do anything that hispanics do.. I don’t even have hispanic friends so my spanish is like that of baby( also the fact that i’m quiet and shy contributes to this)

I dont do parties, i dont like loud stuff, i dont do quincieaneras, dont like being outgoing etc. A lot of hispanics like that.

At the same time, I dont feel American at all. And being that i’m shy and i didn’t pickup the perfect American accent, i don’t feel like American people like me… and i dont have american friends either.

I also don’t do anything that Americans do. I’m pretty much a loner and i don’t speak spanish well and i don’t speak english well.

So, why is it that people try to say that i’m part of some culture or ethnicity when i don’t feel like any of them and i dont even speak the languages of those cultures.

Language is one of the most important things that characterize a culture, right?

I keep feeling bad because every american and hispanic keeps speaking Spanish to me like they try to say that i’m a hispanic fresh of the boat, just because i look hispanic when i dont even speak well.
And then i also feel bad because due to my spanish accent, American companies, people at work, people at school and everywhere, think i’m not even American.

So there ya go, people don’t accept me as anything so how can i not be confused