Is it really true that everybody finds Love when least expect it or do you Need to look hard for your mate?

People , especially outgoing people, who find meet their soulmate just by doing daily things such as shopping, going to the bookstore, etc, say that this is true, that we shouldn’t worry.. Someone will appear when you least expect it.

But that’s not really happening to the loners, nerds like me, or even some outgoing people. So, how true is this? Is it just something people throw around just to try to make us feel better.. or is it really true?

or do you have to actually go out with a purpose any time you go out. Do you have to like.. see a girl, target her and try to actively ask her out.

I’m male , early 30’s(single, never had a gf)