"You can't love another until you love yourself." I think this cliche is bunk. What do you think?

In my experience, learning to reach out and help others taught me to nurture myself. I first had to learn the value of my fellows and give of myself freely for their welfare before I began to gain enough self-esteem to say that I loved myself.

What has helped you to nurture and value yourself?

Is “loving self first” just selfishness and pride?