How do I deal with my mom?

I’m 19. I live with my mom. I plan on remaining that way until I’m out of college (which I haven’t even started yet). I would move into one of my girlfriends’ houses, but Rachel’s mom is an alcoholic, & Ellie’s parents hate me.

My mom is a clean freak; the living, breathing embodiment of the word. I don’t have a problem with her keeping the house clean, but she wants my room to be spotless, which I find uncomfortable because it reminds me of hospitals.

She’ll even go in my room & start tossing out my belongings. She’ll spray Febreze all over my bed, which hurts my lungs & (in my opinion) reeks of chemicals. Everyone (my dad & stepdad, my girlfriends) agrees that she’s going a bit overboard, but my dad & stepdad just tell me to “deal with it”. I’ve been “dealing with it” for the past 12 years.

Also she’s the only one who thinks my room stinks. Everyone else says she’s bonkers. I don’t even know how she can smell anything, since she’s been a heavy smoker for the past 40 years.

I love my mom, but damn!