What is it about certain girls that draws them to gay guys, and draws gay guys to them?

I don’t generally like to use the term “fag hag” because I hate using that F word in any way, but since just about everyone knows what that means, it’s easier than typing it all out.

For example, my friend Shannon and I are drawn to gay men. It seems like every time we really click with a guy on a friendship level, they turn out to be gay. Our best friends are gay men. And we seem to attract them too; whenever we go out with our gay male friends, it always seems like we’re the center of attention. Gay men love us. It’s not something we do intentionally, but we’re never surprised to find out that the guy we’ve been getting along with so well is gay.

What is the connection? It’s not that we both like the same types of men, as our gay friends, because it’s almost never the case. Neither of us can be considered boyish or feminine; we’re a nice mix of both. Maybe that’s it?

And also, likewise, what is the connection between gay guys and larger women? I ask this both from experience (Shannon and I are both not thin) and observance. I mean, look at Glee. Who is Kurt’s best friend in glee club? Mercedes.