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NSFW - Would you sneak a peek at naked pictures of someone you lusted after without their knowledge?

Asked by dalepetrie (18024points) May 25th, 2010

Let’s just build a hypothetical, and two notes, 1) this is purely hypothetical, I’m just curious to see where people set their moral compasses, and 2) I’m not intending to judge anyone or to insult anyone if I don’t concur with their answer, and I would ask that others at least try to refrain from chastising people who give answers they don’t like, because I’m looking for raw, brutal honesty.

So, here’s the hypothetical. There’s a person to whom you’re incredibly attracted, and the two of you have become friends. But for one reason or another you know the two of you will never hook up and you will never get to live the fantasy that plays out in your mind. One day this person asks if you will house-sit for a weekend while they go out of town and you say you will. You drive the person to the airport and know they’re not coming back for two days and you go to their house.

Now, for whatever reason, you start to look through the person’s house…maybe you’re snooping and just curious what you’ll find, or if you wouldn’t do THAT, maybe you’re just looking for something, like a phone book or a towel or a band aid…whatever, you have been told by the house owner to “make yourself at home and use whatever you need,” so you don’t even think you’re snooping. So, whatever the reason, you open a drawer and find an envelope, and even though you can not see what’s inside, from the other contents of the drawer and/or what is written on the envelope, you deduce that the pictures in this envelope contain images of the object of your lust in some state of undress, possibly involved in sexual activity.

So, you have dreamed of seeing this person naked for years and now you have the chance, there is no chance you will ever get caught, and this person will never find out. On the other hand, you realize that this is a horrible invasion of your friend’s privacy, even if they never find out about it.

Does the devil on your left shoulder make you open the envelope, or does the angel on your right shoulder make you put it back? Why? What goes through your mind?

Let’s say it’s not pictures, but a homemade porn film…do you watch it? Do you burn yourself a copy?

Let’s say that you would never look at the pictures or watch the porn because it would be such an invasion of their privacy (and indeed you never would have snooped in the first place unless you’d seriously needed something and genuinely thought it was there. Let’s say in that case, you are in the mood to rent an adult film, and you see a DVD cover with your friend’s picture on it…this is the first you’ve ever suspected that they performed in an adult movie. Would you rent it, or would that, TOO be an invasion of the person’s privacy (despite being a publicly released work)?

Let’s say you’re the type to rent it, but you actually knew this person had made a home made porn, but you also knew that it had been produced for their own purposes and had been stolen, and this is the only reason it’s now for rent?

What if the person wasn’t someone you lusted after, but they weren’t hideous and you were just “curious”, would you still peek?

What if you went to a party or a bar with the person and they got drunk and accidentally flashed you, would you look, or look away?

What if they weren’t in the pictures or movies at all, but you just found their porn stash, would you look at it/watch it? Would you use their lube to pleasure yourself? Would you use their sex toys (washing them carefully before and after….or maybe not)?

Long question short, where do you draw the line between your curiosity and another’s privacy?

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