Is this a mental problem?

I’ve noticed mostly with relationships but its extended as far as family too that I push people away that love me the most. I don’t push them away but I don’t give them the kind of attention you give to someone you love. The people who always try the hardest to show me they care and love me are the people I stay in contact with least. Especially with dating. I can have someone bending over backwards for my every need yet I will still chase after the asshole that isn’t giving me the time of day. I know we all want what we can’t have but I feel this goes deeper then that.

I have always been like this and I don’t like that I am. I try and make an effort to show people I care about (or who really show they care about me) that I appreciate it and care about them back(because I do) Just struggle to show it and often don’ t put them as a priority.

Is this some kind of mental issue or like physiological problem? I’m 23/m if that matters