Am i stupid for waiting?

OK well i guess i should start at the very beginning when i was 14 i met this guy who was 16 and he ended up being my first love everything was going great until he told me that his social worker(because he was staying at a foster home) told him that they would give him papers to be in this country because he came from Mexico but that when he turned 18 he would have to go to the army, so he got scared and told me that he didn’t know what to do…and i didn’t know what to tell him. so then his friends convinced him to go back to Mexico with them…and he agreed but before he Left he told me that he would come back and that we would be together again and that when we were older we would get we married, i cried for months he called me once and said he was trying to come back as quick as possible but that it was hard…so i waited…and waited point is its been 3 years and I’m still waiting. i got the chance to talk to him a week ago it had been 3 years since i had and he said hes coming back in 3months which is in October he said he finally has enough money to come back…and i just want to know what you guys think of that…i cant talk about it with my friends or family because they already told me I’m stupid for waiting and that if we do get married he wont be able to support me and our kids and that he wont be able to give me much but i don’t care if we live under a tree..as long as I’m with him i don’t care where we live…they also tell me that he doesn’t love me which hurts alot…because i think if he didn’t love me he wouldn’t be coming back or calling me to let me know hes coming back…am i stupid for waiting? do you think my family and friends are right that he doesn’t love me and wont be able to give me much(which i don’t care about).....thank you for reading