Isn't feminism a hypocritial fraud most of the time?

Seeing post here and articles elsewhere about feminism and the support of it I can’t but help think how it is all a crock and a big fraud. It seems as if feminism is just a slight of hand parlor game where women want to have their cake and eat it too. On one hand they (feminist) say they want to be treated even and equal to males, such as participating in little league, colleges, the military or other institutions They want equal pay and opportunity in the corporate world yet want to be treated different or special when it comes to birth rights, and past relationships on the witness stand. I also have not seen feminist going to bat to have just athletes at the Olympics etc. Why have women rowing and men rowing, why not just rowing? Why not just rowing and whichever team wins is the one that wins, if a team of women rowers were truly better then they would win would they not? If it were an evacuation situation why make sure the women with 2nd or 1st with the children? If there were able-bodies women why don’t they wait in favor of older, weaker men? Seems to me feminist want to invoke feminism when it is to their benefit and reject it when it goes against them.