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What do these dreams mean?

Asked by KateTheGreat (13610 points ) May 17th, 2011

I’m completely afraid of sleeping these days. I keep having dreams about getting murdered, my family being murdered, and being kidnapped and tortured. Either that, or I’m married to some wacked out serial killer.

I also keep having dreams about alligators.

I’ve seen my therapist and she advised me not to watch any scary movies or read any horror. I’ve taken her advice for the most part, but what do these dreams mean? Am I just going crazy?

For clarification, I don’t have ANY major problems going on in my life right now. There’s nothing traumatic going on at all.

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Blackberry's avatar

Surely you know that dreams don’t have any actual meaning, and if anything, it may mean you should deal with some problems in your life that you may or may not have.

bkcunningham's avatar

I saw this thing on dreams years and years ago. I can’t remember who the therapist was, but they point of the dream interpretation was to describe your dream, outloud, to someone or to yourself, like you are explaining it to an alien who isn’t from this planet. You tell about the dream first. The way you tell it, the things you remember and put emphasis on is important.

So, you’d start by saying, I was murdered. I’d say, “What is murder?”

KateTheGreat's avatar

@Blackberry I don’t have anything troubling me at the moment. I wouldn’t say that I need to take care of anything besides making a few decisions. I am just wondering what kind of things would spark weird dreams like this.

TheIntern55's avatar

I have weird dreams like that all the time. Strangly enough, I usually have good days after I’ve had those dreams. They don’t mean anything really.

KateTheGreat's avatar

@TheIntern55 That’s been going on with me. I have horribly freaky dreams, and I’m perfectly find the next day.

picante's avatar

Be the alligator! I believe that dreams reflect your state of mind, and your state of mind can direct your dreams. When you go to bed tonight, make a conscious decision to direct the course of action in your dreams. If someone is tormenting you or your family, use the strength of the dreamy alligator to overpower the negative sensations. Sounds silly, but it’s no sillier than your disturbing dreams. Let me know if this has any effect. Take care.

KateTheGreat's avatar

@picante That sounds pretty effective! I’ll try it. Thank you!

bkcunningham's avatar

Don’t eat before going to bed. Well, for a while before going to bed. Studies show that eating before going sleep can trigger brain waves that cause nightmares.

flutherother's avatar

Dreams are often a representation of something that is happening in your waking mind. You are not going crazy but it would be interesting to try to identify what might be disturbing your subconscious. You say ‘these days’, has anything changed in your life recently, have you got a new job, met new people, moved house? Discovering the root cause of the dreams like yours often puts an end to them.

HungryGuy's avatar

Have you read any stories or seen any movies recently about being kidnapped, enslaved, tortured, forced to engage in kinky sex, etc? Your therapist is right; those things sometimes lead to such dreams.

Or hire a private investigator to make sure your husband isn’t a serial killer…

Mikewlf337's avatar

Dreams either mean everthing or nothing at all. Do you think about these things often? Is this a fear of yours?

KateTheGreat's avatar

@Mikewlf337 It’s not a fear of mine. It’s not something my mind frequently wanders to. And if I do think of it, I’m usually murdering an annoyance or something. Hahaha.

MilkyWay's avatar

Alligators often mean danger, in Indian philosophy. I have had similiar dreams in the past and the lady told me that you should be cautious of people around you. I don’t know if that’s true or not but just thought I’d share that.
I’ve also been stabbed in my dream before, by a friend. My relationship with her has detoriated for some reason… I don’t know.
I guess it all depends if you believe in all that stuff.

Mikewlf337's avatar

@KatetheGreat how often do you have these dreams?

Michael_Huntington's avatar

I had a dream last night that a hamburger was eating me!
Perhaps you’ve been playing too much Pitfall?

KateTheGreat's avatar

@Mikewlf337 About 2–3 times a week.

Mikewlf337's avatar

@KatetheGreat I can see why you are so concerned. Maybe the first one scared or upset you so much that you keep worrying about having the dreams again and hence they keep coming back to you in your sleep. They are terrible dreams and I know they would upset me as well. Try to think happy thoughts when you’re laying down and waiting to fall asleep and see if that helps keep the bad dreams from coming. To be on the safe side. Always exercise caution when you are around people. Like I said in my first post. Dreams can mean everything or nothing.

auntydeb's avatar

Hi @KatetheGreat, I am sometimes drawn by the dream questions, yours is an interesting one. First, just to let you know, I have studied and recorded dreams over around 25 years now and can absolutely state the contrary to @Blackberry‘s statement. Dreams most certainly do have meaning, as do most things in life. Or perhaps it is more accurate to say that all dreams are open to interpretation, the meaning being something innately personal.

Anyway, on to your problem, I’ll try to keep it short. There are many possible interpretations of the content of your dreams, but frankly, only you know what alligators or serial killers mean to you. Your background, reading and tv/film/interest/educational history will have lodged unimaginable – literally – amounts of information in your subconscious memories. So, in order to find out more, first you must get over being afraid – it’s your mind that’s trying to get a message over! Get some sleep, ask for some clarification; @bkcunningham and @picante‘s advices are good. Talk to yourself a bit, get some idea of what you want to know.

Be prepared: I happen to believe that dreams ‘never lie’, but in fact are part of our processing of things we may find unpalatable in waking life. To this effect, a very specific interpretation is that in fact you have either a direct physical health problem, or there is something in your waking life that you cannot see, or have not yet noticed causing you threat. Not literally a ‘Serial Killer’, but a good example of something I’ve come across, might be a re-interpretation of the word – serial, try ‘cereal’, the dreaming brain loves to mix up spelling! Are you allergic to anything? Have you felt unwell, without having any idea why recently? Worth a think about, under attack may actually mean just that.

Alligators are reptiles, can represent things to do with the nervous system, can of course be related to visits to the zoo. Please do take a deep breath, relax and get a good night’s sleep. The dreaming is part of your whole being, don’t shy away from the content. What strategies did your parents/guardians use if you had a bad dream as a child? Remember the feeling of reassurance from those adults, take it to bed with you. Record your dreams on waking and think about them as you go through the day. Honesty with yourself is very likely to solve this for you. Good luck and nighty night!

apologies for length, but hopefully this could be helpful!

marinelife's avatar

“To dream that you are murdered, suggests that some important and significant relationship has been severed. You are trying to disconnect yourself from your emotions. The dream may also be about your unused talents.”

“To dream that you have been killed, suggests that your actions are disconnected from your emotions and conscience. The dream refers to drastic changes that you are trying to make. There is a characteristic that you want to get rid of or a habit that you want to end within yourself. Killing represents the killing off of the old parts and old habits. Alternatively, the dream represents feelings of being let down or betrayed by someone in your waking life. You are feeling overwhelmed, shocked and disappointed.”

“To see your own family in your dream, represents security, warmth and love. It could also symbolize bitterness, jealousy, or rivalry, depending on your relationship with your family. Alternatively, it could mean that you are overly dependent on your family, especially if the family members are in your recurring dreams .Consider also the significance of a particular family member or the relationship you have with them.”

“To see an alligator in your dream, symbolizes treachery, deceit, and hidden instincts. It may be a signal for you to take on a new perspective on a situation. It may also represent your ability to move between the physical, material world of waking life and the emotional, repressed world of the unconscious. Alternatively, the alligator represents healing powers and qualities. An alligator also suggests that you are thick-skinned or insensitive.

To dream that you are running away from the alligator, indicates that you are unwilling to confront some painful and disturbing aspect of your unconscious. There is some potentially destructive emotion that you are refusing to acknowledge and owning up to. ”

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stardust's avatar

Sound like interesting dreams, although disturbing. I don’t believe in looking to dream dictionaries for clarification in terms of meaning. I believe each aspect of the dream represents an aspect of yourself. Be each person, thing, animal, etc in the dream and converse with that part of yourself. I believe dreams can be quite helpful when it comes to healing.

filmfann's avatar

In dream symbolism, both Alligators and Torture mean Sex.

KateTheGreat's avatar

Thank you all so much! You’ve been so helpful!

rock4ever's avatar

I don’t mean to be spam-ful but dreammoods.com is a really good website for this kind of stuff. They’re experts on this sort of stuff. Go to the discussion forums and sign up to ask. I really don’t mean to be spamming it’s just a really helpful site.

MilkyWay's avatar

@rock4ever I like that.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

It means you’re going to move very close to me, here in Texas, and I am going to save you from alligators.

KateTheGreat's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate Hehehe, that’s very tempting!

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Do it! I triple dog dare you!

KateTheGreat's avatar

You’re getting serious now! OOOOOHH.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Damn right. Bring it on , sister.

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