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What can I do about this friend?

Asked by blueberry_kid (5643 points ) November 15th, 2011

My friend just broke up with his girlfriend. He was always telling me how he was really in love with her and how he’d always be there for her. I honestly thought they were cute together, even though I secretly liked him.

Lately he’s been really depressed and drove to doing the worst thing ever thought of, cutting himself. I saw him bleeding in English today, and in Science, he was crying and cutting himself. I’m really worried about my friend.

What should I do? Should I let nature take it’s course? Or help him? He says there’s nothing wrong, or he just doesn’t want to talk about it but I know when he’s not okay.

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SuperMouse's avatar

This young man needs help. Do you have a trusted adult you can speak to about this? Can you speak to your parents about the situation? Perhaps you and your parents can work together to come up with a way to help this young man get the help he needs. If your parents can’t help you maybe you have a trusted teacher or older relative you can speak to about this. Good luck to you with this, it is awesome that you are such a good friend.

wundayatta's avatar

What @SuperMouse said! Tell an adult and get him help. This is not the kind of thing you guys should be dealing with on your own. This is serious. Tell a parent or teacher or guidance counselor or someone who you trust.

Judi's avatar

Talk to a school counselor. Tell them about the blood on his shirt. They can say that “someone” reported blood on his shirt and was concerned. If you saw it someone else could have too. That will give him an opportunity to open up to a helpful adult and get him the counseling he needs. It’s not your responsibility to “help” him. These kinds of disorders are really complicated and are hard for the best psychiatric professionals to deal with. Please don’t let yourself feel responsible in any way for the choices he makes. Just make sure a responsible adult knows.

marinelife's avatar

Cutting is beyond the code of kid silence. Tell his parents or have your parent tell his parents. He needs professional help.

Cutting is very bad.

Coloma's avatar

Right, what everyone else has shared. Self mutilation is a sign of some SERIOUS mental/emotional issues that need to be dealt with by a professional.

Make NO mistake about it, this is a symptom of SERIOUS psychiatric disorder.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Tell him you see what he’s doing, you’re sad for him and sadder still as his friend that you don’t have an idea how to help him in his despair. He might open up to you enough to take advice to talk to some sort of counselor or his parents.

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