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How would you express love and affection for a teen of the opposite sex?

Asked by Aster (14900 points ) June 19th, 2012

If you have a niece or nephew (or grandson/daughter) of the opposite sex that you remember as a baby and want to express affection for him or her physically how would you do it if they are now a teenager? You can’t have them on your lap anymore or snuggle in bed with them so how on earth do you express love and affection?

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wundayatta's avatar

A hug and a kiss seems to work pretty well for most people I have seen. Pretty much like what you would do for an adult, too.

Blackberry's avatar

Nice try, Chris Hansen.

gailcalled's avatar

Follow his or her lead. For some, a hand-shake is almost too much. Others like hugs and pecks on the cheek, whether or not you remember them as infants.

I hug my step-sons and nephews, because we are a family of huggers.

Writing a large check doesn’t hurt either.

cookieman's avatar

Similar to @gailcalled, my nephew will accept a hug or a slap on the back, but really just wants my money.

Conversely, my niece is all about the hugs and asks for nothing.

Who do you suppose we do more for?

Aesthetic_Mess's avatar

A hug will suffice for me anyway. Teenagers can be touchy.

Sunny2's avatar

Ask, “Can I give you a hug?” Then do. You’ll know by the reaction if it was appropriate or not.

King_Pariah's avatar

Give the little bastard a noogie while choking them out. Is there any other way to do it?

Judi's avatar

I found some our best communication happened in the car. They may not have been willing to hug me, but they poured their hearts out to me when they knew I had to keep my eyes on the road.

dabbler's avatar

Hug ‘em, a solid affectionate hug, but not so much to cause misunderstanding, as @wundayatta observes: pretty much as I would an adult of opposite gender.
A kiss on the cheek usually seems to be welcome.
That’s for youngsters I know.

If I don’t really know the person well, a respectful handshake is fine.

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