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Go to important casting or friend's birthday?

Asked by Kay (1598 points ) July 7th, 2008

Ok, so I have a bit of a conundrum. I just got an email from my agency for a really important casting that could potentially be very lucrative for me and I really really need the money right now. BUT, my friend’s 25th birthday is this Wednesday and a few of us took the day off so we could spend it with her and get manicures and go shopping and whatnot. I promised her I would do the Wednesday birthday stuff before I knew about the casting, obviously. However, I could still go to the casting and then meet up with the group later (I would have to miss a good chunk of the day-time activities though).
I’m also orchestrating a huge birthday dinner/celebration for her this weekend, so I don’t think she would be too pissed off if I missed most of the Wednesday stuff, but I still feel bad, since I technically made plans with her first. Any suggestions/advice?

ARGH.

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15 Answers

babygalll's avatar

If she is a true friend she would understand. If this casting is important for you to be there I am sure she wouldn’t want you to miss it.

Since it is a day-time thing can you change the time, so you will be able to go and not miss anything?

talk to her tell her what’s going on. Give her a heads up in advance. Don’t wait last minute.

uno's avatar

The first deal isn’t carved in stone. If this casting is important to your future career, a good friend wouldn’t want you to miss it. I say go to the casting, no question.

uno's avatar

Or: What she said. :-P

jlm11f's avatar

birthdays come and go, the casting sounds like an opportunity of a lifetime. and like you said in the description, you can always meet up with the group later and you have that whole weekend extravaganza planned! i am sure she will understand and be excited for your casting.

Seesul's avatar

Ask her, if she’s a true friend, she’ll order you to go to the call and then meet up with the group when you are finished.

marinelife's avatar

It would be unacceptable to blow it off for another social engagement, but a job is different. By joining them afterwards and going forward with your weekend plans, you are doing plenty to celebrate your friend’s birth!

Wine3213's avatar

Definitely go to the casting call. I was in a similar predicament, and my friend understood perfectly. They understood how much my career meant to me, and actually kinda fussed at me for even thinking of missing it. A true friend will understand, and support you. Besides, you’re planning the weekend thing anyway. Go.

Kay's avatar

I talked to her and she was totally cool with it, so hooray! :-) I figured she would be, but I was just worried because I had made the plans with her first. Thanks to everyone for the advice!

jlm11f's avatar

yay! Good Luck with the casting!

babygalll's avatar

I told you she would understand. That’s Awesome wish you the best. Good luck tomorrow.

Seesul's avatar

See, TRUE friend. Great to hear it.

scamp's avatar

Good luck at the casting. I think you did the right thing, and I’m glad to here she took it well. Enjoy the weekend party also!

Wine3213's avatar

Good luck!

judyprays's avatar

This isn’t really an answer but I just wanted to say I’m touched at how considerate you are to your friend’s feelings. Thank you for valuing friendship so highly! And good luck!

Judi's avatar

Just saw this question and now I want to know if you got the part?

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