Is it true that a couple should have a 10 year marriage before trying to swing with other couples ?

Awww, again with the swinging questions? Do it or don’t – make up your mind.

It is actually 13 years.

Do you see what I did there?

Here ya’ go:

http://www.swingerfaq.com/

I’d wait closer to 250 years. This is a bad idea.

@syz. With respect to your first answer, isn’t this users’ indecisiveness directly compatible with the lifestyle?

I think a time frame is useless and probably dangerous, hitting a specific time in your relationship will not magically make you more able to deal with some other chicks goodies all up on your man or vice versa. Period. I think it’s an incredibly bad idea, for everyone.

Now, quit it with these questions, go to some other websites with people who have had far more experience.

You should wait until 6 months before you are ready to divorce so you will have something to blame for the downfall of your marriage. (in other words.. it’s NOT a good idea)

I would say you are ready for swinging when both partners dig anal.

People in my podunk town have said you’re either an Evangelical or a swinger around here. What if I’m neither?

I can’t imagine getting off on watching some other guy screw my wife/best friend ever. That’s some jacked-up shit, I tell you what.

It’s not like there’s a Swingers Alarm Clock that goes off at 10 years, like BZZZZ! Honey, it’s time to swing now!

I do think that before playing around with this kind of fire, a couple needs to be VERY secure with themselves (self-esteem wise) as well as being very solid as a couple. Some couples have that right away, and some do not have this after ten years and will never have it at all, so setting an arbitrary 10 year line in the sand is, well, arbitrary.

My personal opinion (which I know you didn’t ask for) is that if a person or couple wants to go out swingin’, they’re probably not too committed to each other. There are probably issues. This is not true in 100% of swinging couples, but there’s enough of a pattern to make it worth investigating.

Either way, it’s the stability of the couple (and their committment level to each other) that I would think you’d be looking at, and not a random time limit, before deciding to open up a relationship. Once that is done, it’s very hard to undo.