Is it rude to invite yourself to a social event?
My favorite advice columnist recently broached this and there seemed to be two conflicting viewpoints.
VIEWPOINT 1: “Don’t be afraid to be the third wheel.” In other words, don’t be afraid to ask others to include you in their plans. This works best with new acquaintances . . . when you hear others making plans, say something like, “Hey, that sounds like fun, do you mind if I join you?” If they do mind, you’ll get the message. And usually they don’t!
VIEWPOINT 2: “Mind if I join you?” What?!?! Goodness, no! Please, if you overhear me making plans with a friend or friends, DO NOT INVITE YOURSELF to join! I don’t mean to be a witch or a mean girl, but seriously, I would have to say yes because I would feel horribly rude doing anything else and I really don’t want you there! That’s why you’re not invited!
What do you think?
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