How can I fix myself?

Avoid pyschotherapy and drugs. If it was me i’d cultivate things that relax you, treat yourself to a trip to the spa for example, reasses what you enjoy in life and try to spent more time doing it. Also try to work out what is behind the anger is it someone or something? or a culmination of things.. Actually I wouldn’t listen to me as I’m prone to being bad tempered too, but hey, we are all human.

Try herbs you can make tea from that calm / relax your nerves.

Therapy may help to get to any underlying issues. Meditation can help to take that critical step back from yourself and look at your situation from a different viewpoint. If you’re feeling tired and cranky all the time though, maybe you have a nutritional deficiency that’s affecting you such as low iron. I would get yourself checked out by a doctor to rule out any physical causes for your behaviour and attitude, just to make sure. The doctor may also be able to provide you with suggestions to address your other concerns, or at least referrals to keep the process of healing going.

Try taking a multivitamin. I used to be like that, but it was because I was lacking certain vitamins in my body.

when you fell mad, listen to your favorite music using a headphone and close your eyes.

It may be depression, it may be a chemical imbalance (brain type), wanting to change is the first huge step in finding an answer to your ails, the next step is to find the treatment that works for you.

If you seek outside help, go to a professional that specializes in your symptoms, do not depend on your local MD.

Good luck in your quest. May the Force be with you.

I’ve read David Burns’ Feeling Good, and it has a lot of ideas on how we can take a different look at how we think about ourselves. Then I’ve read Hugh Laurie’s The Gun Seller and had a laugh, because Hugh Laurie is very funny.

Try not to approach it in the sense that “something is wrong with me that must be fixed”. We are all perfectly imperfect. Think more in terms of what you would like more of in your life, i.e., if things were good most of the time for you, what would be happening? How would you feel? And work backwards from there.

Are you male or female?
What makes you feel good?
Do you do enough of the things you enjoy?
Are you fulfilled in your work life, home life?
Do you have people around you that you love; friends and family?
Has this come on all of a sudden or been brewing for some time?
Are you eating well? As in healthy and some of the naughty things also?
Do you go for walks much?
Do you have life purpose?
If anything in the world could happen tomorrow that would make you cry with happiness; what would it be?

Maybe something in your diet? I know people who’ve had a lot of luck cutting out processed wheat gluten.

If you feel you are sleeping enough hours but not feeling rested you may have sleep apnea, which is basically choking in your sleep at regular intervals and starving your body of oxygen. Another possibility is that your endocrine system is out of whack (such as your thyroid), which can make you feel tired and cranky. I have both of these, which is why they are my top suggestions.

It totally sucks balls, but my mood is more tied to these two things than anything else in my life. Think about it. If your body chemistry is off or if you’re choking for 1/3 of the day, what does it really matter what happens to you? It could be a great f-king day, and you’d still feel the need to be cranky. I know how f-king annoying it is to turn the responsibility for your deepest inner turmoil over to something as mundane as an air compressor and a thyroid pill, but it works for me when I cooperate and stick to the program. Otherwise, I pay in spades.

Make a concerted effort to rule out any medical causes. If your body is functioning normally, you will feel more normal.

Definitely sounds like depression to me. If you want to go the non-med route, do as I did and open your eyes. Realize that the person whose skin you’re getting under the most and hurting the most when you are irritated and fussy all the time is yourself. If you’re smart, you’ll have a problem with that and want to change that. Find things that you love to do and do them. Listen to people when they talk. It’s really difficult to get out of the phase you’re in right now but if you try, you can…without meds. Promise.

So you work 8 or more hours, and you sleep 8 or more hours. What do you do with the rest of your time? Do you take some time to unwind? Do you take breaks during the day? kevbo is right when he suggests you get a check up to see if it’s anything medical.

A little bloodwork can tell you a lot. Thyroid can be a nasty bitch. I know because I suffer from the same thing kevbo does, and even tho I take the same medicines, the problems from it never go completely away.

If it’s not medical, and you get proper nutrition, make sure you are getting enough “me” time. It works wonders!! that means you need to tell your girlfirend you need just a little space, so you can have a couple of hours to yourself. You may feel stretched thin between work and spending time with her. Give yourself some quality time too!

You should give yourself more quiet time! I walk or bike to school every day and that definitely helps me clear my mind. Also, I think certain foods help with mood swings, like oatmeal and bananas! Hang in there!

If you are still suffering after ruling out medical causes and trying to help yourself, open your mind to the idea of therapy and medication if you need it. There is no shame in getting whatever treatment you may need.

I hear heroin really kicks the blues in the ass.

I also just started going back to school at night. In the summer I work 60–70 hours and in the winter I work between 40 and 50. I’ve also gained a ton of weight which I’m not happy about. My job is pretty stressful also. It’s tough to unwind though when you’re there 6 days a week, like it never stops. It’s cold out and freezing ever single day here and it sucks. I don’t know how to change my life right now. I have a lot of bills and have to keep working and paying for school, rent, car, credit cards. I have barely enough time to see my girlfriend. Today was a pretty good day I didn’t get too mad at anyone, I also slept 2 less hours than I did the previous 2 nights and felt pretty good. I also skipped coffee today and just drank water all day. I’m trying real hard to eat better but I’m always on the go so eating junk is quicker but I’m trying to break the habit. Still feeling very tired but not as irritable as yesterday. It gets so bad that I feel like physically hurting people because they’re bugging me. I yell at my older some times for dumb shit. People say I’m uptight and serious all the time. I never was like this before I started this job. I have a lot of pressure on me right now from work, but not too sure how to handle it. Thanks for the advice…off to class. Tom

Try to take a more positive approach in your life. I know it sounds patronising to say it, as if that’s easy. Well I’m still working on it, and am yet to succeed. But if you ARE a negative thinker like me, then that can really drain your physical and mental energy such that you always feel tired no matter how much or little you sleep.

..you could always use a plaster?

POSITIVE THINKING!!! It’s the only way. Keep smiling, be thankful for what you have and quit thinking about what you don’t have so much…. I used to do this all of the time, and if I don’t watch myself, I still do.. I’d constantly think negatively.. not on purpose, and not even unwarranted sometimes, but that doesn’t matter. I believe that if you send positive energy out… beam it… then it will be returned to you. Call it the “Universe”, “Karma”, I don’t know the vehicle… but it seriously works..the worst part is adjusting your attitude… that can really be hard especially if you’re stubborn like me..lol. But, you find that the more you replace bad thoughts with good… the brighter your life becomes and almost magically, more opportunity flies your way. I’m not lying, try it.

~Jaime