When you ask someone for their opinion do you ever get offended at their answer?
I got my hair cut yesterday. I usually wear my hair very short, but I got it cut like, it’s damn near a buzz cut. I personally love it and got a lot of really nice comments. One lady at work came in the break room and just stood there and looked at me. She said you got a hair cut. I said Do you like it? She says, Yeah and then goes, No, no I don’t like it at all! I just laughed because I thought it was funny. I kept giving her shit about it today, telling people she hated my hair cut, etc, just kidding with her. She said, well you shouldn’t have asked if you didn’t want the truth! I told her, I always wanted the truth and wasn’t the least bit offended. I couldn’t care less if she liked my hair or not. How do you feel when someone gives you their honest opinion? I personally like the honesty, but it seems some people don’t.
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I’m sure I have before. I’m sure everyone has before. People usually ask that with an expected answer in mind and if they don’t get that answer, there is definitely a window for offense.
Btw, does my butt look big in these jeans?
Maybe not the answer but how it’s phrased.
@gemiwing Totally. “I don’t like it at all” comes off way differently than “I think you looked pretty with longer hair.”
@Likeradar and @gemiwing I think you are both right also. The lady that said that to me isn’t known for her tact at all. The other day I had on some workout pants and my seven year old told me…Momma those pants make your butt look big! It made me laugh, but I had to explain to him that you don’t say stuff like to that to people. Especially if they didn’t ask in the first place!
y’know what’s weird? sometimes I like it better if they go waaay out in left field with it. Something like ‘Dear God you hideous beast! Your hair looks like it was eaten by a giant moth with a taste for blood!’ Espescially if they say it with a nice accent. I know, I’m a freak
I tease my boyfriend about always giving the “right answer.” But I try not to ask questions if I do not want an honest answer.
Sometimes if they’re being honest and I don’t really LIKE what I hear, I’ll get offended at first but then I realize, wait, I should be glad they’re being honest. Then I’m happy.
I get more offended when its not solicited and given anyway.
@avvooooooo I’m with you on that one. If you just walk up to someone and say those jeans make your butt look big, that’s rude, but if asked, then it’s perfectly ok to say that!
I don’t ask unless I want an honest answer. If there is something I want to hear, I will say “I just got my hair cut. Please tell me it looks nice.” But that’s pretty rare. Usually I’m just looking for the truth.
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