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What's bothering you?

Asked by chels (6782 points ) April 7th, 2010

Everyone needs to vent sometimes, and I’ve just recently realized that theres some kind of depressing bug going around. So.. What’s bugging you? School, people, life in general? What is it?!

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rangerr's avatar

The fact that it’s springtime and everyone is in such a bad mood around here.

Mods resigning, constant bickering on threads, good questions getting modded for simple reasons?

I love Fluther, but I can’t handle the fact that everyone is in such a funk. It’s making me pretty sad.

Outside of that, I have no complaints. Life is fantastic right now.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

You know what bugs me? The way billing and administrative staff at hospitals don’t understand that the reason why patients ‘are not taking care of their billing/insurance problems’ is because they’re exhausted/sick/disoriented and in PAIN from oh, you know, chemotherapy and radiation and post-surgery side effects!!!! oh and they’re also 80! And please give an HIV+/cancer stricken single dad of 2 young children crawling on the floor from pain his pain medication instead of asking me about how I’m going to manage to help him pay for it through applications.

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

I seem to be surrounded by grumpiness and negative attitudes, and I really don’t see the need for any of it.

I see @rangerr beat me to it.

JLeslie's avatar

I seem to be having trouble getting some important things done, mostly because of fear. My husband just told me I don’t “finish” things, which kind of upset me because I do seem to be getting stuck lately. Avoiding some hard decisions. But, it also kind of pisses me off that he said that because I have accomplished a lot in my lifetime, and I think maybe right now when I need a little help to get my act together, that he could be more psychologically helpful. He felt badly afterwards, he really is a great guy, it just got to me.

JLeslie's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I love your answer. GA.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

School – I’m flooded with homework, and I still have no idea what I want to major in
Personal relationships – On so many levels that it’s pretty pathetic
Lack of money – Having to live off of Financial Aid is just idiotic
My inability to help those that I wish I could help
I really miss my best friend – today was particularly hard on me, and I can’t believe it’s been almost four months since he killed himself
I really need to go to the doctor’s, but I don’t have insurance, so I really don’t want to
And I’ve been getting a lot of migraines lately :(

Thank you, chels, for posting this.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@JLeslie My job makes me so angry sometimes…every day is a horror story or 10

Cupcake's avatar

Well, after my 9th cycle… my IUD is still killing me. My monthly cramps are again unbearable. I finally called the midwife to have the thing taken out. I’m a tired, hormonal mess. I was very mean to people around me for the last few days and feel very bad about it. I think I need to have hormone levels drawn next month.

We bought a house, I feel broke, the old house is a mess, we don’t have clean dishes, the dining room is full of junk we’re selling this saturday, we keep eating out/ordering food, our cat might have cancer, my husband’s job is getting really busy and I’m constantly behind in work and school. Oh, and I have a presentation to give in class next week followed by a paper the following week and haven’t started either. And we need to find renters for the old house. And I’m transitioning off my anti-depressant and feel nauseous with a headache most of the time.

Other than that, things are great. Thanks for asking. I feel 10 lbs lighter.

That reminds me to complain about being overweight.

chels's avatar

Since I posted this I’ll answer as well.

I’m super super indecisive. I don’t know what I want to spend the rest of my life doing. Wedding planning? Writing? Being a personal assistant? I’m not even sure. I’m going to school and it pisses me off that I have to take a bunch of bullshit classes that have nothing to do with what I want to do. Really, is this high school again? I’m so unsure of everything in my life right now except for one thing (because I do know who I want to spend the rest of my life with) and I guess that’s all that really matters right now, huh?

Vunessuh's avatar

A good friend of mine just relocated to Louisiana which is quite a ways away from me and I feel rather lonely.
No income sucks pretty hard too. I’m actually thinking of filing for unemployment and I feel rather defeated because of that.
My mom’s birthday is on April 15th and I won’t be able to celebrate it with her.
And several months ago I saw this really cool spatula. I decided to wait until it was on sale, but when I went back to get it, they were sold out. :( That hurts the most.

rebbel's avatar

That my sweet girlfriend went back to her country three weeks ago after she stayed here with me for six months.
It’s pretty lonely now.
On the plus side: she isn’t playing Warcraft on my laptop now, so more Fluthertime for me.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@chels this is a pretty common feeling – I think, in general, you should check this thread out for support

trailsillustrated's avatar

I have to figure out a way to buy my son another bike. an expensive one. I feel so bad about the past. I should go to the dr. but I cant be bothered.

Michael_Huntington's avatar

Fucking school.
I just want to graduate already and leave, goddamnit.

toomuchcoffee911's avatar

-I don’t know what classes to take next year
-I’m not able to go to the National Fencing Championships this summer because it conflicts with something I really love
-I miss a good friend that I haven’t seen in a month.

JLeslie's avatar

@Cupcake If you have that IUD that has hormones, I know several people that had bad experiences with it.

MissAusten's avatar

Well, since you’ve asked….

I have a burst capillary in my left eye, which is harmless and not painful but looks gross. The kids have started calling it “zombie eye” and I wish it would go away.

Then, my chin seems to have been attacked by a zit monster. I can’t figure out why, so on top of the zombie eye, I’ve had these huge painful zits for the past few days. They are clearing up, but with my super fair skin it will be weeks before they completely fade. :( I’m thinking of getting a burka and some big sunglasses.

I’m sick of living with only one car for our family of five, and my husband thinks he might have to stay home instead of going on vacation with us next week because he is overloaded with work and we need the money. The vacation is already paid for, booked a while ago before a lot of other shit hit the fan. Plus, major parts of the expenses are being picked up by the relatives who invited us to join them on this trip they make every spring.

I had to buy a bathing suit today for the vacation, which is causing so much stress it doesn’t even feel like a vacation (hoping that changes once we get there), and buying the bathing suit made me feel like losing 20 pounds didn’t make much difference. Both the pairs of sandals I got for my boys turned out to be too small, so I have to go back tomorrow and exchange them. My washing machine seems to be leaking and I don’t have the heart to tell my husband because he is already so stressed out.

To top it all off, I know that what’s bugging me is temporary and very small compared to what could be bugging me. I feel like I shouldn’t complain or feel discouraged or stressed because things could always be worse.

jeanmay's avatar

I feel great. Spring has sprung and the blossom is blooming; we’ve had so much rain of late and I’m ecstatic to see blue skies at last. @chels Sending happy spring-type cherry-blossomed lurve to you!

rangerr's avatar

@Mike_Hunt I understand that completely.
@MissAusten ::hug::

OneMoreMinute's avatar

I am in the middle of straightening out a very recent Identity Theft on my credit card. And every time I have talked with a different customer service person, I get a different story. I am still waiting for the charge to come off my card, as the card co promised to do.
So my patience is getting tested.
I don’t like automated press 1 for…. press 2 for… press 3 for…... press 4 for… press 5 for… press 6 for… press 7 for… when I have to wait to press 9 !

chels's avatar

@jeanmay Thanks <3 :)

Cupcake's avatar

Thanks @JLeslie. I have the copper one. The nurse in my midwife’s office told me that my recent hormonal issues shouldn’t be related to the IUD, but I don’t believe her. My body seems raging mad at the IUD for being here (in overly simplistic terms, that is) and I doubt she’s speaking based on double-blind placebo-controlled peer-review studies. Anywhooo… I look forward to getting to the bottom of it, and getting this damn thing out in a couple of weeks.

trailsillustrated's avatar

@MissAusten I am not being mean but I couldn’t help laughing at ‘zombie eye’ you poor thing. hope everything goes ok for you.

JLeslie's avatar

@Cupcake Trust your gut. I think you are right and they are wrong.

MissAusten's avatar

@trailsillustrated Don’t feel bad about laughing. It’s one of those things you just have to laugh at!

PacificToast's avatar

Not much is bothering me at the moment, but Robert is Bothered.

Facade's avatar

I’m out of shape and have no idea what to do with compliments I receive about my appearance.
My job leaves me practically crippled when I get home.
I’m still not done with my hair even though it’s been four hours. I might shave my head.
It’s 9:30 and I’ve barely seen my man all day.
My mother is bothering me to call her back so that she can complain passive-aggressively.
My car needs some repairs that are going to be expensive.
I really want a pet, but I’m afraid that it’ll like my man more than me.
I’m in school.
I don’t think I’m completely over depression.

Facade's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Noooo way. My head is too huge lol

Pandora's avatar

Oh, I’m great now. I’ve been putting off my spring cleaning and today I finally got around to doing it all. I’m so happy now!! I really hate spring cleaning but at the same time I hate not having the house ready for spring. I’m good now till July.

rebbel's avatar

@Facade
But if i recall right, some months ago you were living with your mum, and were desperate to have your own home?
I get the idea that you have at least that now.
That’s positive?!

Bernard's avatar

I have jury duty to get to tomorrow. At a youthful 20 years old, this is my second time having it
While I don’t have any class tomorrow or Friday, I do have important classes to be at on Monday and Wednesday. I really don’t want to miss them, when there are hundreds of other eligible jurors who can miss their workday.
Last time I managed to get out of it, during the “question the jurors, dismiss them if we don’t like their answers” process, when they asked if I’d be biased towards either side. This time I may not be so lucky.

I need to see an optometrist to get some new glasses. I’ve had these glasses for 4–5 years. They’re scratched to all hell, frame is bruised up, the bridge (? The part that sits on my nose) is messed up, and I’m assuming the prescription is too weak for my sight now too. I called them a few weeks ago to schedule an appointment. The earliest they could see me was next Tuesday. I didn’t know if I would be still serving as a juror or not, so I couldn’t bring myself to solidify that appointment. So now I’ll have to wait a few more weeks from whenever jury duty is over.

I’m absurdly bored. The past 15 years of my life I’ve spend most of my time in school. This semester I have two easy classes (I didn’t register for 2 others that I wanted in time). I couldn’t bring myself to get a job (knowing that I would quit after only 4 months, to focus on school in the summer), so I find myself sitting around waiting for something to happen.
edit: Oh. And I have signed up for summer classes. I’ll be going 4 nights a week, for 4 hours (6pm to 10pm) all summer. Taking Math and English, neither of which is an interesting or light subject. My parents expect me to be doing this, and they also offered if I wanted to go back east to be with relatives for a few weeks right in the middle of my summer semester. Which only stresses me out more. I can’t skip 32 hours of classes in a summer semester.

And I’m lonely.
I’ve moved away from my friends that I made in high school. Not incredibly far, but far enough that I only see them once every 3 or so months. I’m too socially inept to go about making new friends.
Despite them being nerds, I don’t feel like I fit in with my housemates.

filmfann's avatar

I am at the 5 year anniversary of the 3 week period between when my Mom went into a coma, and died.
I am trying not to let it overwhelm me, but it’s winning.

shpadoinkle_sue's avatar

I’m always bothered by collegiate bureaucracy and how random it is. I just had to drop two class because of financial aid and at the same time I might be getting money back from a class that the dean of the department said I couldn’t. It’s maddening sometimes.

buzzpoet's avatar

the fact that i couldnt right click in firefox.. stupid yahoo toolbar

Jude's avatar

I was sick for a month and a half and now I’m sick again. One nasty head cold and I can barely keep my eyes open. I have a ridiculous nasal drip, and as we type I have two bits of kleenex stuck up in each nostril. =)

Tomorrow, I’m off for an ultrasound on my ovaries. The doctor found cysts and wants to take them out. He is worried about my family history (Mom had cervical cancer at my age and died of Ovarian at 64). Not sure what these cysts are about I hope that I’ll be okay.

I have a sister who was in a terrible car accident. She is in chronic pain (the doctor’s say that it’s unbearable pain) and when she came to visit the other day, she was limping. With the way that she’s been walking the past three years, she thinks that it’s warn down her hip and that she’ll need hip surgery. She is an RN and is only 47. She also started drinking wine heavily to help deal with the pain and her husband is not supportive at all. He got upset with her the other day (saying that she was a “pill popper”) and pushed her against the wall. I equate her to a baby bird. She’s pretty damn fragile and I CANNOT believe that he did that to her. She drove off sobbing and cried for my Mom who died three years ago. When my sister told me about her hip, she started sobbing. There is no light at the end of the tunnel for her and nothing has helped her, yet, she continues on and does her best to raise her 7 year old daughter and be there for my family.

I am so worried about her, but, there is nothing that I can do to help her.

Draconess25's avatar

The fact that my girlfriend’s parents still hate me.

gemiwing's avatar

I’m tired of being in pain. I want to bicycle with Hubbs. I want to be able to do laundry without being on the disabled list for two days afterward. I want to wake up without feeling like I’ve been hit by a truck in the night. I want to be able to pick up things form the floor without bruising all over. I want a doctor to fucking listen to me for once instead of just seeing this shell. I’ve had a rough life and it shows, that doesn’t mean I’m not intelligent, articulate and soulful.

IBERnineD's avatar

School and my future are driving me crazy
I’m in a state of mind of knowing exactly what I want to do, how I want to get there, and where I want to be while I do it. On the other hand I just want to graduate school, and I’m not motivated by anything, I’m stuck in the regrets I have made in the past. I’m in debt, and paying it back, which leaves me with no money, but hey I’m being responsible.
A friend of mine died 3½ weeks ago, completely unexpectantly. And that had me questioning why I was doing what I’m doing. What exactly am I fighting and working so hard for? Part of me just wants to fly somewhere and start over.
I’ve come to the epiphany that my older sister who I used to be incredibly close to, thinks I’m selfish brat, who lies, and is a whore. I am having difficulties even using the word “sister” when I talk about her. I haven’t spoken to her in months. And I am considering not even letting her come to my graduation because she has never supported me in anything I have ever done.
I also feel chunky, especially when I am at school. I’m used to guys liking the way I look when I am home, but here I’m considered gigantic, which doesn’t register in my mind.
And believe it or not, I’m lonely. :I And the most physical I have gotten lately is with my jawbreaker, which I have named Hal.
Meh, that’s enough pity party for today.

jeanmay's avatar

@filmfann I’m so sorry. When I approach the anniversary of a loved one’s death I find it helps to write them a letter. It sounds cheesy but I feel closer to them that way, and my feelings seem more manageable once they’re down on paper.

Allie's avatar

Drama. I don’t have much, if any, of it on my own and I don’t like dealing with OPD. You down with OPD? No, I am not.
School is okay. I have one professor I really can’t stand, but eh, it’s my last term before I graduate. I can deal. (Seriously though, I’d learn more from her NOT talking. She just confuses me when she speaks.)
My friends are great. They’re happy, funny, life-loving people. Same goes for my family.
The weather is funky. One week of 70s with blue skies, followed by a week of low 50s with rain and wind. Wtf? I packed away my electric blanket, Mother Nature. It’s GONE!! I’m COLD!! Stop it, please.
/end

WolfFang's avatar

I’m bothered that I don’t know whether I should take a class at a community college over this summer, before my upcoming senior year to get some extra time on my schedule, or whether I should just stay with the AP classes…I’m also worried I’m not getting any smarter lol and that I’ve almost stopped growing. Most of all I’m sick of the way the world works, even though it’s been operating like this for years, us sheep on the bottom, herded by the master elites on top, I feel it’s time for a revolution, but I feel alone in this, considering how most of the population is apathetic or completely blind to the issue…feels good to vent don’t it? ;]

faye's avatar

It seems I hurt all day everyday. If I have a somewhat good day then I pay for it. I’ve gained a bunch of weight and my belly is like a seperate entity. But I have plants coming in the mail! I will have my garden, dammit.

J0E's avatar

I have too short of an attention span to be bothered by things.

cak's avatar

For the first time, I don’t feel like I have the full support of my family, when it comes to a healthcare decision. It is really weighing on me. Cancer just really sucks. No matter how you slice it, it sucks. Today just sucks. I’m just tired.

I want my biggest problem to be that we ran out of toilet paper and I’m sitting on the toilet trying to figure out what the hell to use.

I’m angry that I just don’t feel normal, today. Why can’t I just be normal.

jeanmay's avatar

@chels You’re welcome! Here’s some nice blossom which I photographed yesterday.

@Allie What’s “OPD”?

Allie's avatar

@jeanmay It’s like OPP, but with a D (from Drama). Still don’t get it?

WolfFang's avatar

You down wit OPP!

Allie's avatar

”... yeah, you know me!”

Cheeseball451's avatar

At this moment: Nothing.

WolfFang's avatar

@Allie aahaha! srry I couldn’t help myself

TexasDude's avatar

I miss someone horribly, and I’m tired of being solely responsible for making sure that my entire group of friends doesn’t implode over contentious issues.

shego's avatar

I feel like I am going crazy. I can’t afford my meds. I am in pain, both physically and mentally. I have no income, and I can’t get the help I need. I am sick and tired of crying. I even cried on my birthday, it went nothing like my boyfriend and I planned. I am lonely, and most of all, I really miss my mom, and I wish she could give me a hug.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I’m having issues with my boyfriend again and I’m not sure how to deal with it this time. I think just sitting by and not pushing him to tell me what’s bothering him is the way to go but I suck at that. My two main actors for my final project backed out and it is extremely difficult finding someone both willing and able to smoke a cigarette on screen. My roommate is super passive aggressive about how messy I am. My old english teacher’s mom just died which is a sad thing even though the woman was over ninety and had zero quality of life. As selfish as it sounds, I’m worried that this means my mom will have a lot less time for me now. I haven’t been getting much sleep and I have this headache that I’ve had for several days. I’m becoming more and more of a hermit and it’s due solely to school work.

I am so ready for vacation right now.

casheroo's avatar

I’m really worried about my marriage, and the future of it. I’m bothered by things going on in it, and if I’m not being proactive enough. I want to fight, but I feel too depressed about it to even want to.
I’m also bothered by the ceiling fan. It’s bothering my contacts right now.

MissAusten's avatar

@everyone :(

((hugs))

toomuchcoffee911's avatar

Yikes. Reading everyone elses hardships make mine sound puny and insignificant, which they are (except the one about the tournament, that one really bummed me out).

I just wanna give everyone in this thread a big hug!

Tenpinmaster's avatar

I wish i wasn’t living on the financial margin like so many other americans. Working the nightshift is really shitty though I am grateful about having a long term job. Wish the government wouldn’t tax the crap out of us hard working people and give so many loopholes to those making a kagillion dollars. We are the ones who need the bailout!! We are the ones who need a little help to keep our bills current and not watch our credit scores go down the toilet. The richest, most powerful country in the world…. most of us are trying to make a dollar out of 15 cents everyday.

faye's avatar

@Tenpinmaster GA. I’ve always bitched about how easy it is made for the rich to get richer.

jeanmay's avatar

Oh dear me! Please tell me it’s not all doom and gloom.

WolfFang's avatar

@faye * coughcoughs-capitalism-coughs*

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Excellent! My bf was suggesting I fill out something like a few days back so I think I will.

My 10yr old car bit the dust and I have no idea how to replace it.

My house is being threatened with foreclosure and I have to take off work (unpaid) for a surgery.

My bf is wavering with his sobriety and I fear a return to his previous behaviors.

I’m not getting any younger, prettier, thinner or richer.

tinyfaery's avatar

Compared to this thread my life is pretty good. I’ve decided to quit my well-paying job to attempt a new career. It’s scary.

Bluefreedom's avatar

It’s this damn diabetes I’ve been saddled with for 4 years now. The blood checks twice a day, not being able to eat fast food or desserts, restricted diets, doctor visits every 3 months. It bothers the hell out of me and it’s a complete pain in the ass all the way around.

faye's avatar

@Bluefreedom keeping you alive! @tinyfaery admiration for your guts!!

Jude's avatar

A big, squishy hug to you all..

Cupcake's avatar

Hugs and cupcakes to all.

Leanne1986's avatar

I said something to my boyfriend that sounded worse out loud than it did in my head! I certainly didn’t mean for it to sound the way it did and, although he didn’t seem to bat an eyelid he’s not easily offended I am terrified that it may have secretly pissed him off. I can’t speak to him until tomorrow now which is only making me dwell on what a doofus I am.

J0E's avatar

So many people have answered seriously I guess I should too.

I’m completing my third year of college in a month and I feel more lost than ever. I know what I want to do but I’m not sure how to do it. This summer is going to be a big summer for me, I want to do some traveling and I want to move to the city. Both those things excite me but also make me nervous. I just have this terrible nagging feeling that I’m supposed to be doing something else. I’ve had some crazy thoughts over the past few months, at one point I was thinking of up and moving to Chicago or transferring schools. I’m happy with who I am, who I’m friends with, the things I do, but sometimes I feel like I’m taking the easy way out. Like there is something amazing out there but I’m too scared to take the chance. I feel trapped a lot of time. The town I live in is smaller than most college campuses. I need a change. I’m certainly not depressed by any of this, but I think I could be happier.

Good luck understanding that unorganized mess of thoughts :)

KatawaGrey's avatar

A certain person on this thread is bothering me.

chels's avatar

@KatawaGrey Okay. Now that’s bothering me.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@chels @KatawaGrey you girls are late to the party – it’s been bothering me for days

chels's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Late is better than never, I suppose.

kenmc's avatar

Work. It wouldn’t be that bad if I wasn’t working 10 hour days (on average) 7 days a week. What amazes me is when I talk to people about this, and they’re jealous because of monetary reasons. To me, money is solely for improving your standard of living. It is not my life and does not make my world go ‘round.

Fuck money. I want to have a life.

Because of these working hours, I’ve become absurdly lazy outside of work. I haven’t shaved in months and I need to very badly, but I’m either working or too tired from working to do it… or anything else for that matter.

I’ve also been having bouts of depression. Whether it’s caused by the aforementioned woes, I couldn’t say.

Leanne1986's avatar

@boots If you’re that unhappy in your job despite the money maybe it’s time for a change?!

MissAusten's avatar

I’m on vacation, having my second drink of the night after spending half the day at the pool with the kids and the other half of the day walking around Charleston. My bothers have been cured, at least temporarily!

cak's avatar

@MissAusten Oh to be there and see the beautiful houses! Have a drink for me, too!

kenmc's avatar

@Leanne1986 I can’t yet. Obligations, ya know…

Leanne1986's avatar

I miss my favourite person :(

Jude's avatar

My shitty health has been bothering me. Something doesn’t feel right (my body). The ultrasound was rescheduled and is on for tomorrow. My Mom had Cervical cancer at my age.

I’m really not trying to be dramatic, but, I truly don’t think that I’ll be a living long life.

rangerr's avatar

@jjmah I love you. ♥ ::hugs::

Jude's avatar

I love you, too.

JLeslie's avatar

@jjmah Cervical cancer is caused by HPV the majority of the time. If you have yearly pap smears I see no reason why you would have cervical cancer. I understand you are concerned about your ovary if I remember correctly, but I am trying to reasure that your mom most probably had a very aggressive form of HPV and cancer, she “caught” it from a man. If you are gay less reason to worry. Men are germ vectors I swear.

marymmmellen's avatar

my house is a unfinished deconstruction construction zone .My husbands medical/mental problems,money and ect…O but it is a lovely day out side and I will go for a walk .

toomuchcoffee911's avatar

I finally saw my good friend that I haven’t seen in a while, but we didn’t exactly, um… hit off in a way I would have liked/hoped.

chels's avatar

I love all of you! <3 And I hope everyone is feeling a bit better.

WolfFang's avatar

@JLeslie oh yeah? but statistically, females are the majority carriers of STD’s… @jjmah you shouldn’t worry about how long you will live, just make sure you live well and do all the things you want in life. I don’t mean get wasted, cause that will only make things worse, but always keep a positive attitude and take care of your body too, we only got one earthsuit ya know

JLeslie's avatar

@WolfFang Where do you get that from? Where the hell do you think we catch this crap from? Men are not even tested half the time. We get HPV from men, do you know any men being tested for HPV? Except for maybe gay men? Men are many times asymptomatic with Chlamydia, they typically don’t know when they have trich, on and on, and it is a female partner who will most likely go to the doctor, get meds and get him some too. And, the guy might say, “oh yeah, it kind of hurt when I peed the last couple of weeks.” At least that is how I have seen it happen. I have no real statistics on the matter, do you?

WolfFang's avatar

@JLeslie Well I don’t know any gay men and my age range is actually under what you are thinking. Sorry, let me clarify, I am referring particularly to teenage girls, they carry more STD’s than their male counterparts and are more responsible for spreading them. Approx. 1 in 4 teenage are infected with STD’s and females show a higher concentration generally in chlamydia. Just do some google searches. You should find a site called avert.org and articles from nytimes and usatoday which have cited studies

JLeslie's avatar

@WolfFang Well, I just take issue with any stat on the subject. Women typically start going to the doctor for regular check ups once they become sexually active and men don’t, so the likelihood of women finding out they are infected is much higher. And it is easier in general with most STD’‘s for a man to give a women the infection, including AIDS, so if a man has sex with 10 girls, probably 80% of the girls will contract the disease, I mean he is in contact with mucous membranes and spilling the infection inside of her if a condom is not used, and you can’t just go and wash it off a minute later (I am making up that number, and it really does matter what disease we are talking about specifically, bacterial and parasitic infections like Chlamydia and Trich I bet are close to 100%, things like AIDS there needs to be a tear, things like HPV the transmission might be lower). If a girl has sex with 10 men, maybe half get infected, again depending on the disease. So, in my opinion men are the carriers and the ones doing more of the spreading around of these diseases, but certainly women are not innocent in the process.

WolfFang's avatar

@JLeslie Hm. fair enough. Lol we might have had to make a new thread if we continued…

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