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Do you think people are sometimes brought into your life for a reason?

Asked by creative1 (12081points) March 28th, 2011

About 4 years ago I went on business to Charlotte NC and when I was checking into my hotel I was I met a person who invited me to go to the Panthers game with his friends, this was 2 years before I got my daughter but I think I was always met to meet this person. My daughter that I adopted has several genetic disorders and had seizures last year is also mentally delayed. This person works is a teacher of special needs teacher for kids like my daughter and we have always kept in touch since we met 4 years ago via email and instant messenger. I just think I was to meet him to have someone to talk to and get advice from regarding my now daughter. He tells me as it is when I feel like early intervention is afraid to say something. Do you have anyone in your life like that? That there was a reason for you meeting them, even though you didn’t know at the time.

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Nullo's avatar

Absolutely.

yankeetooter's avatar

Yes, I do. It’s interesting that right around the time when I met a certain someone last year (even though I didn’t know how I was going to end up feeling about him), I was going through a rough time with my two best friends. Since then, things have gotten mostly straightened out with one of them, but the other still does not talk to me. We had been really close friends for about ten years, and, needless to say, this incident devastated me. Right around this time I met this guy who has made a huge impact on my life since then. I am really hoping that things develop further with him, but even if they don’t, I will never forget the impact this guy had on my life.

Because my best friends had been so encouraging about my returning to school after so many years, when everything happened with them I went through a period of not caring about school. I still wanted to finish my degree, but I was rather down about being able to accomplish it at that time. This guy encouraged me (sometimes indirectly, sometimes more directly) to stick with it and to believe in myself. Even now, when things are better regarding the situation with my best friend, he still continues to encourage me. Also, the whole time I was feeling very down, he always seemed to be able to cheer me up and make me laugh at myself. He always had a kind word for me, which I really needed back then, and still is very kind to me. As I said, I don’t know where things are going to end up with this guy, but I will never forget the impact he had on me and I will always love him…

So, do I think things happen for a reason…yes, definitely. Even if we go our separate ways, this man entering my life at that particular time could only have been God looking out for me…I hope that I have in some way been a blessing in his life as well, and can continue to do so…

12Oaks's avatar

This has never happened to me, but maybe it is possible for it to happen. I never, or at least rarely, ask for stuff from others and look to myself to find resolutions to issues, so I guess it could have happened but I never took advantage of the situation. Maybe.

janbb's avatar

Yes I do, although sometimes it’s hard to discover what the reason is.

Lightlyseared's avatar

Yes. To have a colonoscopy.

TexasDude's avatar

The ultra-rational scientist-type in me says no.

The prevailing symbolist/romantic in me says yes.

I have had a small group of people who, no matter what, keep circling back into my life over and over again, and each time I’m able to trace these weird, outlandish connections among them that makes me think they all are in my life for a reason.

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard….You are a symbolist/romantic extraordinaire! You can’t fool me! lol!

Yes, I think people come into our lives for a reason…and when they are wonderful and synchronistic encounters, I think of them as angels( as in your case). When they are mean and nasty, I used to curse the heavens and wonder, “Why me? Why this person?!” Then, I realized that the people who challenge us the most, are the people who force us to draw boundaries, to learn of the true stuff we are made of and who also challenge us to look at ourselves unflinchingly and become stronger in that examination.

You may argue that the checker at the till at the local market didn’t come into your life for a reason. However, if he/she were not there, who would be there to make sure you got out of the shop with the items you needed to say, for example, feed your family? I don’t think of life as a series of random occurences…life is a symphony, even when some of the notes appear sour…there is something to the larger picture that has not unfolded (yet). You don’t know how you can change someone’s life (and the course of the time-space continuum) with one word, one smile, one small gesture of kindness (or cruelty, for that matter.)

I had a friend who suffered through a horrible marriage. She could not see what the benefit was (at the time) of her suffering. She was angry that she could not muster up the strength to go and she judged herself harshly. Eventually, though, she got the strength to leave. She was a totally different person, she had been transformed by walking through fire. Her sojourn in the “desert” had forged her to become_fearless_, really. She was always someone who was quiet and now she has blossomed into a crusader for human rights.

Life is a series of seemingly random encounters that really are purposeful…even if we don’t see things clearly all the time.

Coloma's avatar

Yes, I do.

I believe all relationships are there to teach us more about ourselves.

That is THE purpose of all relationship.

Presently one of my relationships is being ‘tested’ and the person in question is not walking their talk nor taking responsibility for their behavior. This serves ME in being able to put into practice all I have learned about healthy relationships, clear, direct, communication and setting boundaries.
I have done my part and now, it’s just a matter of observation.

The healthier you get the more ‘tests’ show up.

Sometimes people come into our lives to make us REMEMBER what we really want, won’t put up with, or settle for anymore.

I presently am at the stage of development where I will not spend one minute of energy on any sort of mind games in my relationships, if you cannot show up consistently with integrity, I’m not interested in your company.

marinelife's avatar

Yes, that has happened to me.

Cruiser's avatar

Most definitely!

novemberrain's avatar

Oh yes, i believe that everything happens for a reason.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Definitely! My wife was brought into my life to save it, to love me for who and what I am, and to give me someone on whom I could shower all my love. I was brought into her life to love her, take care of her, protect her. We’re a matched set! : ))

creative1's avatar

@CaptainHarley I love your answer, I hope that someone is brought into my life like that!

CaptainHarley's avatar

@creative1

Thank you, hon. I love her with all my heart, and would, quite literally, do anything for her. : ))

Rarebear's avatar

No, not even a little bit.

Here is a song that pretty much represents my point of view on the topic.
Tim Minchin If I Didn’t Have You

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

@CaptainHarley…....Ditto on what @creative1 said.

We should all be loved like that…thanks for your wonderful answer!

CaptainHarley's avatar

@DarlingRhadamanthus

It’s occurred to me more than once that if everyone could be loved as I am loved, this would be the most wonderful planet in the Galaxy! : D

Love can make up for a host of things!

rooeytoo's avatar

I have heard and believe the phrase, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I am not at all religious but somehow those words fit into my belief system and feel right and good.

Aster's avatar

No; I think it’s random.

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