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How to deal with break-ups?

Asked by takeachance (701points) April 20th, 2011

Me and my boyfriend were going out for over 3 months. Everything was good until he told me he wasnt inlove with me anymore but he was inlove with my friend.

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Bellatrix's avatar

Aww sweetie. Love can be so hard and I know you must be hurting right now. There really isn’t a magic way to get over breaking-up. You just have to give yourself some time and to try not to see it as a reflection on who you are. Don’t let this destroy your confidence. You are a beautiful young woman.

I always found it helpful to get in touch with my friends and go out and do some of the things I loved to do before I had a boyfriend. Go and have some fun. Get on with your school work. Keep focusing on the things that will help you to become a better person and to be a fantastic role model for other girls about how to deal with breaking-up with class.

It won’t help to say this but there is another boy out there for you. Learn from this experience. Lovely to see you here too.

filmfann's avatar

I am very sorry you are going thru such pain.
I doubt you will find this comforting, but Real Love doesn’t fade like that.
Your boyfriend sounds a bit immature.

beckk's avatar

Sorry to hear about that, but to me it seems like you are better off without him. If he really cared for you and it was meant to be he wouldn’t have left you for your friend. He isn’t worth your time, you can do better! Keep your chin up, some times things need to fall apart so better things can come together.

kitkat25's avatar

The best thing is to just get out and be around other people. Spend time with your family and friends and have as much fun as possible. Who knows when you are out with your friends you just might meet your next boyfriend who will love you for longer than three months.

Jeremycw1's avatar

“Time heals all wounds” – kinda. It’ll get easier with time. I’ve been in you’re shoes, and I know how hard that is. Just keep a positive outlook on life, and you’ll be good. It’s definitely easier said than done, but just try to be happy, and not think about it. You’ll get through it :)

mazingerz88's avatar

I believe a boy or a girl in the end is better off knowing if their loved one really loves them or not and the earlier the better. Why waste your sweet affections that someone else needs, even deserved. And there will always be someone else. That’s the good news, no that’s the Great News!

takeachance's avatar

Yeah Thanks everyone. I have recently been out with some mates to an underage dance party and we met some pretty hot guys ;). I am really close with one of them now and his really nice but I’m gunna give it time before i go out with someone else :).

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