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cliofaye's avatar

Why do guys (or girls) get turned on by choking?

Asked by cliofaye (405points) July 27th, 2011

I recently heard about this and was curious.

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Coloma's avatar

SOME guys and girls, not ALL.

Playin’ with fire there, lots of people have strangled themselves playing this game.

It’s a fetish thing, supposedly a lack of oxygen enhances orgasm. It may be the final orgasm some people have.

I’ll settle for breathing during my orgasms, thank you very much!

Blackberry's avatar

Apparently the struggle for oxygen enhances the orgasm. This is why you hear about people accidentally dying while trying to masturbate while choking themselves.

Personally, I’d rather just do E…..Ba Dum Chhhh!

cookieman's avatar

I suppose it gives you something to do with the other hand.

poisonedantidote's avatar

I’m not sure what you mean by “choking”, the vague list of things that come to mind is both horrible and long.

cliofaye's avatar

@poisonedantidote what i mean is hands around the throat and putting pressure ranging from light to not being able to breathe.

poisonedantidote's avatar

@cliofaye who’s hands around who’s throat?

Your hands round your own throat, see above. thats the attempt to enhance orgazm. Your hands round someone elses throat or their round yours, thats more of a domination thing, or a sadistic thing.

cliofaye's avatar

@poisonedantidote guys hands around girls throat

Coloma's avatar



Hasn’t nature provided you with enough stimulation already?
Ya know, when ever we get greedy the universe has a way of cutting us down to size.

You can have 10,000,000 ‘regular’ orgasms, or, you can have the one extreme orgasm and then, eternal sleep, or brain damage. lol


poisonedantidote's avatar


The guy is in to domination, or maybe a sadist, or maybe just sick in the head and likes to watch people have a hard time as he does them, a serial killer in the making perhaps.

cliofaye's avatar

@Coloma Lol I’m not personally into this but it just made me curious

Coloma's avatar


Okay, good. Stay curious. lol

filmfann's avatar

It’s called AutoErotic Asphyxiation , and it is very dangerous stuff. I can think of 3 famous people who died from it, including David Carridine
If you need this to get off enough, you might want to rethink your life.

edit—After reading one of the follow up clarifications, I now don’t think you are refering to the chokee being the one who is thrilled, but the choker. Is that right?

Coloma's avatar

Sounds like a perfect match for a masochist and a sociopath. lol

Haleth's avatar

The exact question was why are some people turned on by this, so I’m going to do my best to answer.

This is a specific (and risky) fetish, but lots of people are turned on by bdsm and that’s easy to understand. I could see erotic asphyxiation hitting a lot of the same buttons- taking control or giving up control, and deep connection and trust with the right partner. Power exchange can really make things more intense. Like a few people said above, the struggle for oxygen can be part of it.

Actually trying this can be dangerous. There was a case at my college that was a really big deal, where a freshman girl got involved with a local guy and died doing this. Her death really bothered me.

If you think about it, it’s easy to understand where this desire comes from. I also think there’s a huge difference between being curious about something or fantasizing about something, and actually wanting it to happen in real life. There are plenty of things I’ve thought about that I would massively Do Not Want in real life. I think every sex topic should be open for discussion, no matter what it is, so kudos for being brave enough to ask.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

The answers are all referring to the most extreme versions of this “fetish.”

I’m going out on a limb by being so revealing, but I happen to really like being grabbed by the throat while in the heat of the moment. I don’t want to be strangled until I’m seeing spots or passing out.. or worse… it just feels good to let go of all control. It’s not always so extreme. I’ve met just as many people that like it (to some degree) as those that don’t. So it’s not like it’s uncommon.

woodcutter's avatar

that is pretty cool

El_Cadejo's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf exactly what I was thinking. There is a big difference between some and the holy fucks your about to kill me choking :P

My SO and I both like the less extreme version, as you said, its nice to have that loss of control and feel of being dominated by your SO, ya know minus the dying part.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@uberbatman right. I don’t have any ideas about lack of oxygen enhancing orgasm or being taken “to the edge.”

It just feels good. I’m sure it isn’t for everyone, but that’s the answer behind it for me. It feels good.

Pandora's avatar

Because the sex they are getting from their partner isn’t good enough to make them dizzy or see stars. (Such a pity.) :(

Haleth's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf You made me think about the word “fetish.” Kink would probably be a better word to use here because it doesn’t have so many negative associations. When people talk about fetishes, they usually mean something weird or other, and I wanted to take a more understanding tone in my answer. Anyway, what you described sounds totally harmless and fun.

Some of the reactions in this thread remind me of the way people react to bdsm when they’re uncomfortable with the idea. Like it’s all head-to-toe latex and whips and chains, when really what most people are doing at home is nothing like that. I wonder why there’s this gut-level reaction and people talk about the extremes?

MissAnthrope's avatar

I’m glad you spoke up, @ANef_is_Enuf.. I was also going to say there are various degrees of this, many of which are not dangerous and really not that weird, at least to me. It’s not something I do all the time, but I’ve definitely gotten some dirty thrills from having a hand or two around my neck in the heat of the moment, or as something someone does to top me. I’m all for it and it can be really hot.

However, I’m into the whole ‘safe, sane, consensual’ thing, so choking for oxygen deprivation is not on my ‘yes list’.

Coloma's avatar

I agree with the matter OF degree.

A slap on the ass is not the same thing as being whipped til you bleed, and a mild gesture of ‘choking’ is not the same thing as toying with the edge of the strangulation cliff.

From mildly wild to deviant, two completely different ropes. Pun intended.

ucme's avatar

Because some folks like their sexual exploits full throttle?

rts486's avatar

Because they bore easily?

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