[NSFW] Can you be a good lover and hate the part/s you use when making love?

If you think your own sex parts are filthy and disgusting, doesn’t that affect how you view any lover who finds your nasty bits attractive? In specific, many men are taught as boys to think the penis is dirty and disgusting. Do you think that some accept that message, and that it leads some males to think that any lover who finds their cock attractive must be a whore and a slut?

This question grew out of issues explored in the responses to this earlier question, What’s up with all the incredibly hot she-male porn?.