Sure parents should love their children, but should they accept them?

In this TED talk, Andrew Solomon describes his research into what it is like to raise a child who’s different from you in some fundamental way (like a prodigy, or a differently abled kid, or a criminal). In his quietly moving talk, this gay writer shares what he learned from talking to dozens of parents—asking them: What’s the line between unconditional love and unconditional acceptance? Keep the above question in mind as you listen. I am certain you’ll find an answer before the end of his talk—your own answer—to the question.

I found this question when searching to make sure the above had not already been asked. It’s dealing with the same sort of issues, and elicited some good responses. But it’s different enough and old enough I feel OK about going ahead with posting this fresher look at parental love and not just loving but actually liking our children.