Does it upset you if people forget your birthday?

Asked by JLeslie (65418) January 6th, 2015 from iPhone

Maybe just certain people? Ok if friends forget, but not ok if a parent or spouse forgets?

This is a Q for adults primarily. I think most people would agree forgetting a child’s birthday isn’t good.

My aunt called me today feeling horrible she forgot my birthday. She never has before. She isn’t well, has a lot of health problems and some other things. Even if she were completely healthy I would not have been angry or upset. Probably because she usually doesn’t forget. Also, my birthday is early January, difficult for people to remember. I celebrate birthday month, so if you call me in January or send a card, I say you didn’t forget.

If my friends don’t remember it doesn’t faze me at all. If my spouse forgot altogether I would be a little annoyed maybe, but I think it would be almost funny, because it’s out of his character. It definitely would not bother me if he forgot first thing in the morning in the rush to leave for work and remembered later.

I have friends and relatives who are really angry and incredibly upset by this type of oversight. They all are miserable people to begin with. Some are alcoholics, others just depressed and angry people.