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When making decisions in life, how do you choose between your desire to live and your values when they contradict each other?

Asked by drdoombot (8145points) November 11th, 2009

Somewhat related to another question I asked a while back.

If you have to make a choice between something that makes you safer but compromises your values or vice versa, which do you choose? This question came to me when reading a list of safety tips by an ER doctor (the full list can be found here). It was his first tip that got me thinking. Here it is:

“Drive the biggest vehicle you can afford to drive. Your greatest risk of death comes from a motor vehicle accident. Despite all the data from the government on crash test safety, I can say unequivocally that in a 2-car accident, the person in the larger car always fairs better. Force=Mass x Acceleration. The vehicle with larger mass imparts the greater force. Also, purchase the newest large vehicle that you can afford. Crumple zones in newer cars can expand deceleration time from 30 milliseconds to 90 milliseconds which decreases deceleration forces by a factor of 3. I am not a believer in global warming or man’s contribution to it, but if you are and you want to do your part by driving a Smart Car or a Prius you should be commended for potentially standing by your convictions with your life. Also, if your midlife crisis plans include a motorcycle or sports car, realize that you might resolve your midlife crisis by avoiding old age all together. It goes without saying to wear your seatbelts, and you should be engulfed by as many air bags as possible. If we were truly rational about risk, all seat belts would be 5-point restraints and we would wear helmets while driving.”

I think it’s absurd for a person not to “believe” in man’s contribution to global warming, so I’ve been resolved for quite a while to do my part in contributing as little pollution as possible. I don’t have or need a car right now, but when the day comes, I’ve assumed I would go for a smaller car with good MPG. But it seems I’m increasing my risk of being seriously hurt if I get into an accident. So I need to get a gas-guzzling SUV now so that I can walk away from a crash with a soccer mom who’s driving the same thing?

Similar dilemmas occur when you think about where you want to live, for example. Your values might dictate that you live in an urban area, but your fear for the safety of your kids and your desire to give them the best education might make you want to move to the suburbs. Or concerning military service: I love America and want it to remain a great country, but I’m not willing to put my life on the line for it.

Another one which might become an issue soon is performance-enhancing drugs used in an academic setting. Students are starting to pop pills to increase their focus and concentration, to give them an edge in studying and getting better grades. If you refuse to participate (these pills do have negative health effects), how do you keep up with everyone else when you want to be the best too?

How do you decide if your values or your desire for safety win out? I’d love to hear examples of choices people made and why they made them.

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8 Answers

marinelife's avatar

If we all lived like that doctor, we would be driving around in armored tanks. I don’t believe his simplification in that example.

That said, there is always some compromise, because everyone’s existence is going to have some impact on the Earth. So, you move forward balancing as best you can striving to implement your values when and how you can.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

We have to accept that our lifestyles carry a certain amount of risk no matter our decisions. My chances of getting knifed on the way to work are greater by virtue of taking public transportation than if I drove my vehicle every day. However I am still going to take public transportation because it’s the more reasonable choice.

A person’s chances of being involved in a car accident are relatively low to start with however large vehicle are not immune to driver casualties either because large vehicles tend to roll.

I say, stick to your true self.

nikipedia's avatar

This dude is an physiCIAN, not a physiCIST. I love how he ignores data and replaces it with his opinion: ”Despite all the data from the government on crash test safety, I can say unequivocally that in a 2-car accident, the person in the larger car always fairs [sic] better.”

Sounds like total BS to me.

To answer your question, I wouldn’t want to live in a world where people make decisions based on their own needs and abandon any sense of moral responsibility. (Around here, we call those people Republicans.) This assumes that your safety and comfort are more important than everyone else’s.

I will gladly accept an increased risk of harm to myself in exchange for the certainty that what I’m doing is morally correct.

Drawkward's avatar

Remember that your ideas of values are always only defined by what you do, not by what anyone else says, does, or thinks. Just think about each situation and go with what you feel is the right thing to do. Life is nothing if not filled with compromise. People don’t like being considered contrary to their beliefs, but ultimately, your values/actions are solely yours, and yours alone to shape.

gemiwing's avatar

I’ve found that usually there is a solution as long as I’m creative. The SUV example- buy a diesel and convert it to biodiesel. It’s all how you look at it.

Anon_Jihad's avatar

Well in a real situation, it depends. Am I making any kind of stand, or a silent exit if I choose my morals and die?

I for one side with science in the issue of global warming, and I accept climate change as a reality, but not warming in this case, nor that it is man-made as science does not seem to support these ideas. Insult my intelligence as you will, but your time would be better showing me evidence, because I won’t argue with facts. So far the facts seem to imply this is a left-thinking clusterfuck of madness, a political movement gone way too far.

galileogirl's avatar

If you are doing it right, the way you live reflects your real values. In your Hummer vs Prius debate it has nothing to do with crash tests or crumple zones or anything anybody else says or writes. It is what your values really are. You want to think you are good because of environmental awareness but you feel your safety requires you drive a big gas guzzler.

Just man up. Admit your priority value is your safety, that doesn’t make you bad, that’s just who you are. The bad thing is claiming values that really are not who you are just because others say you should.

YARNLADY's avatar

According to that way of thinking, we should all just walk. It’s safer and healthier.

Use common sense and always be aware of the consequences of the choices you make.

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