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Any advice for the heartbroken and socially deprived?

Asked by Haroot (2123points) November 14th, 2009

This is a bit of a read, so I thank you if you make it all the way through. It’s kind of more of a rant than a question, but advice and input is greatly appreciated.

So getting right to the point, my (first) girlfriend left me back in late August after roughly a year and four months. I’m going to go into detail but lets just say she hurt me pretty bad.

Now I’ve been trying to keep my mind of her, but I’ve been extremely unsuccessful. I see constant reminders of her everywhere I go. We both go to the same university too so I constantly am trying to avoid her. Two weeks after her leaving me is understandable, but two months later and I feel I have a bit of a problem.

I know the common advice is hang out with friends, but that’s issue #2. I don’t have much of a social life. Other than her, I have maybe only three good friends. One is in Nebraska and dating her best friend, one doesn’t go to college and is usually very busy, and the one I consider by best friend is friends with her, and I’m more or less losing him to her.

Now my family isn’t good at reacting to this type of thing. They’ve proven that with this scenario. Were just not that tightly woven. And unfortunately my classes are on the rather large side, making it hard for me to develop any bonding with my classmates this semester.

So long story short, I’m alone. And I’m sick and tired of it. I wanted to go to my University’s homecoming last weekend, but I had nobody to go with. And I think it’s fair to say that I’m not only social deprived, but rather bored.

But I’ve been trying to solve my issue to the best of my abilities. I’ve been visiting a therapist which helps a lot, being able to vent. She recommended me to a group therapy session that focuses on social interaction which also has been helping. I’m looking for a job, looking into some clubs (Our school doesn’t really have anything to my liking though…) and am planning on smaller, more hands-on classes next semester. I currently am gunning after two love interest, who both seem rather uninterested.

I know things are going to get better, but I know at the very least I’m looking at a rather lonely Christmas break. So does anyone have any advice, long-term or short-term, to help me through this rough patch?

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