Do you look down on people who are divorced?

I don’t.

But, I find it interesting that all of my friends or relatives who are divorced worry about being judged or feel like they are failures. I feel they are too hard on themselves. One relative of mine definitely was judgemental previously about it, and so I think when she found herself in that very position she had a lot of difficulty and shame. I wonder if this applies to my other friends who feel badly about being divorced, that they themselves had been very judgemental previously?

I understand feeling badly about the divorce itself, sad, but I think it is a waste of time worrying about what others might think.

I have one friend who was terrified to tell her religious Catholic father she had finally decided to get a divorce. In the end he was happy she was leaving her husband. She had worried for nothing.