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I'm not involved in the drama at school. Is that good or bad?

Asked by weeveeship (4403 points ) December 11th, 2010

Sounds silly, but here goes:

I started grad school a couple months ago. Hardly anyone there know each other from before. In a span of two months, I have made some friends.

However, since I am a commuting student, I am not really involved in the “drama” at school (drama=gossip, not an actual school play). That is, people talk about weird things that happened to them while they were at happy hour, etc. and I would have no idea what they were talking about.

I actually feel ok about it. Finals is coming up and people are panicking. I definitely don’t mind having the peace and quiet to study and focus on my work.

On the other hand, I just want some insight from someone who has been or currently is involved in some sort of drama, whether at school or at work. What is it like to be in such a situation? Are you happy that you are in such a situation? Why or why not? If given a choice, would you choose to be in the drama or not?

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Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

Stay out of the drama. There will come a time when you will have no choice but to face some kind of drama, but let it be your own.

Brian1946's avatar

I don’t like starting or being involved in interpersonal drama, and I haven’t even been on the periphery of such a situation that was conducted in English since the late 80’s, but I admit that I find it entertaining sometimes.

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

Yo stay out of the drama. I think its for the best.

Thammuz's avatar

Substitute “drama” with “the black plague” in the question and you’ll see how i see it.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Drama in law school is not quite like drama in high school or college. Most of you class should be bonafide grown-ups. Part of the class will be older students, married, with children. Are you socializing with your class at all? Study group? Going out to where the law school class hangs out? It’s possible to do these things without getting sucked into the drama.

marinelife's avatar

I hate drama.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

The less drama,the better.You are smart to stay out of it :)

Cruiser's avatar

You are paying good money to be in school to learn and you will have the rest of your life to “be in the drama” free of charge.

Ponderer983's avatar

It’s good to be out of the drama——less stress for you! I always hate drama and avoid it at all costs. It may be good to know what is going on with your friends, but you not actually having the drama revolve around you is a good thing.

Kardamom's avatar

If you want to experience drama vicariously, without getting involved in it yourself, check out some of the threads of Fluther. There’s plenty of it. Then you can make your decision as to whether you want to be involved in that type of thing. Check out the relationship questions.

I think it’s great that you are spending your time studying and doing your work. That’s why you are going to school. I think it’s ok for you to occasionally socialize with your classmates, though, without getting dragged into drama. Like @BarnacleBill said, most of the students should be adults.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

I think it’s a good thing that you’re not in the drama! It seems as I get older, I’m able to stay away from drama, but it’s kind of always there…. no matter how mellow it is..

I once heard someone say they wanted the drama—to excite their life, but that just sounds silly… to me anyways. =|

klutzaroo's avatar

When I was in a similar situation, I tried to stay out of it. Little did I know that it was being turned around and used against me. I ended up having all kinds of issues with my classmates because of things being attributed to me that weren’t said and stupid things like that. Had I kept my finger on the pulse a little more, I probably would have gotten wise to the fact that crap like that was happening and could have stopped it before I did, before all the damage was done. If I could do it again, I would have been slightly sociable and kept tabs in things that might affect me. In some ways, its good to not be involved. In others, its not such a good thing. You have to figure out the balance you want to strike.

My grad program had a lot of focus on working together so we were kind of suck spending more time together than other groups might, btw. Which made it harder when everyone was thinking that I was being… whatever.

weeveeship's avatar

@klutzaroo I see your point. However, it is unlikely that most of your classmates would say bad things about you to your face. Some don’t really have anything bad to say. Some have something bad to say but do not say it because they don’t want to risk offending you. Others have something bad to say but would rather be passive-aggressive and “talk about you behind your back.” I would assume, that unless someone is very honest, very angry, or very drunk, they are not likely to say something bad about you to your face.

klutzaroo's avatar

@weeveeship Yes, but had I been more sociable and in touch with the people who were hearing these things from others, it probably would have gotten back to me faster. People saying things to your face isn’t a benefit of being somewhat involved, hearing of what people are saying behind your back is. I think that if you read what I wrote you’ll see that was the point I was trying to get across.

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