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Do you go crazy without intimacy?

Asked by wundayatta (58357 points ) April 21st, 2011

By intimacy, I mean both emotional and physical intimacy. I mean a deep connection with someone where the love is mutually reinforcing. People might be without it because they never had it, ever, or because they broke up a relationship, or because they are in a relationship, but it doesn’t include intimacy.

There are professional celibates and amateur celibates. There are willing celibates and unwilling ones.

I know that the professionals do have problems, and some have forbidden relationships and some get involved with children, and some are able to cope somehow.

The unwilling celibates might have to go a long time before they find a relationship where they feel safe being truly intimate. They might seek it desperately, and end up connecting with a lot of people who really aren’t into connection.

I suppose it is easier for some people to cope than others. Can you cope easily without intimacy? How do you cope? Do you go crazy without it? What affect does that have on your life? What factors in you life enabled you to go without intimacy for a long time? Or what factors helped form your inability to cope with a lack of intimacy?

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nikipedia's avatar

Not sure about crazy, but I do get very lonely. Sometimes I settle for less than what I want so I can have some of what I want. And sometimes this seems like an acceptable compromise, and sometimes I feel like a total fuckup.

seazen_'s avatar

Been a little lonely lately – but I have my things I do: the kids’ hug, a massage here and there, fluther. I’m good.

FluffyChicken's avatar

I’m addicted to intimate affection. I get really depressed without it. It doesn’t have to be romantic or sexual intimacy though that is preferred, but I need multiple hugs a day.

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sliceswiththings's avatar

I notice my mood dropping if I go a few days without a hug. Since I keep moving and frequently don’t know anyone, I try to adopt a relationship where it’s appropriate to hug as soon as possible.

FluffyChicken's avatar

@sliceswiththings wow. I don’t think I’ve ever gone a whole day without a hug. I don’t know if I could.

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