Supposed first date: Should I text/call him?

I would say just wait it out. Even if he doesn’t show up at all. Let him get back to you. If he is truly interested he will.

You could wait a little longer, and text something short like “How’re you doing? Feel like doing anything tonight?” I dunno. I’m kinda bad at these kinds of things myself, but that’s probably what I’d find myself doing…

Although I like your answer @Schroedes13 , and would like to wait for him to see if he’s interested, it kinda sucks to keep waiting, since I would like to call a friend to do something else tonight if not with him.

It’s true. But it’s only one night. After tonight, you can still go out with friends. I’m not saying keep every night available.

If he hasn’t contacted you yet, I suggest you just go out and hang with someone else. No use in waiting for guys if they act like they aren’t interested.

How about giving him a call? If he doesn’t answer, just leave a message saying that you were hoping that the two of you could meet up as tentatively discussed earlier, but assume that something else came up for him and that you are making alternative plans. Just word it in your own way and make it sound like the situation that it is: you discussed general plans at one point, neither of you made specific plans, you haven’t heard from him, the call/message is a courtesy, and you are moving on when it comes to the evening’s plans.

I would like to call a friend to do something else tonight

Do that. You’re not obligated and you can play a little hard to get.

Vague plans are amongst the worst laid plans and all you can do is to wait it out…or text him and say get your ass over here already!

I agree with @Cruiser! Maybe he’s waiting for you? Don’t sit and wait. Either call or do something else.
—“I’m THE girl” sounds like all dates are between one man and one woman. :( Why not say “I’m A girl?”—

We guys are idiots and forget things all the time. Just b/c he isn’t initiating doesn’t mean he isn’t interested, it probably just means he forgot. Shoot him a text along the lines of what @Schroedes13 said.

Why don’t you just play it straight up and ask him outright if it’s still on for tonight, you won’t have to second-guess anything then… what’s the very worst that could happen?

“Are we still on for tonight? If not, not a problem, but I’m going to grab a bite to eat anyway so let me know if you want to join me.”

Simple. (That way, even if you aren’t going out for a bite to eat….he won’t feel pressured to meet you if he doesn’t want to and you let him know that he is not the “center of the universe” either.)

Thanks everyone, I texted, and it all got cleared up! @sliceswiththings, the reason said THE girl, was to make clear that it IS a guy-girl date.

Most say to wait. But if you are interested just make your step and call. You like him so you can call first too.

I didn’t understand the reason. You said the reason was to make it clear if it was a guy-girl data? If so, was it? What did he say?

@wundayatta and @sliceswiththings: If I had said “a girl” then it would not have been clear if the other was male or female. BUT instead I wrote “the girl” so that it would be clear that the other was male. And I think that my intentions were fulfilled, since seemingly everyone who responded understood that the other was male. I suppose I could be even more explicit next time.

As for the outcome, I texted, he politely asked if we could postpone one day since he was still busy with moving. so we did, and the date was… awesome :)