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Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

Is it the case that women almost always make the first move?

Asked by Imadethisupwithnoforethought (14682points) August 1st, 2011

I got into the same argument today I always do with my male friends:

It is my strong belief that women always make the first move. Sometimes it is subtle eye flirting, sometimes something more blatant.

Is the idea that men initiate a fallacy? I am willing to accept once a woman generates interest men often do most of the chasing.

I am also curious as to any insight members of the GLBT community might feel they can provide about the first initial encounters in their relationships.

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Hibernate's avatar

But what about when a man notices a woman and the woman doesn’t know he’s under surveillance? :)

King_Pariah's avatar

From what I’ve seen, I’d say it’s about even with the amount of guys and girls that initiate.

Zaku's avatar

I think it’s a matter of opinion about what constitutes a move. If “subtle eye flirting” counts as a first move, and you think women make the first move, then it seems to me you must be not counting men checking out women, which seems slightly lopsided. I don’t expect most people would agree that eye contact constitutes “making a move” in any case.

nikipedia's avatar

I agree with @Zaku. I wouldn’t consider flirting to be making a move—it’s inviting the other person to make one. I would define a “move” as moving from flirting to unambiguous physical contact.

Haleth's avatar

It’s hard to pinpoint who makes eye contact first, and I doubt women are always the first ones to do this. But you’re right that there can be a lot of subtle pre-flirting gestures between two people who haven’t spoken yet. That part can be so much fun.

chyna's avatar

I think @nikipedia hit it. Making eye contact isn’t making a move, it’s letting the other party know they are open to the other party flirting.
I’m not one to make the first move.

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