Why can't I just be myself without being a doormat?
Why did I just comfort my ex when it was MY cat who had to be put to sleep today? Am I too nice? I mean, she was the mommy and I am the daddy (SHE left, not me) to 4 cats total in the beginning. I had 2 and now 0, she still has her 2. She was pissed because her “friend” at work said she could go and later said she couldn’t go to put the cat down. The same “friend” I rushed to the hospital when her appendix was rotting inside her, by the way. My ex just kept focusing on what that person “did to her.” I looked into her eyes, put my hand on her shoulder, spoke softly and let her know she was there with me just the same and he knows it. I even called her from there and put the phone by his ear after it was done. I did this for my 2nd time ever, but I had never done this alone before, until today. She can accept my comforting her and be ok with it, but she didn’t do shit for me and it didn’t even dawn on her. I’m gonna go lay down, but please tell me what you think. She needs to go to the family she can barely communicate with, for support right now. I feel bad even saying that :P What is wrong with me?