I really don't want a wedding but my fiance wants one , what should I do ?
Ok well my family is dysfunctional. I already have enough problems contacting them and as for getting them to come to my wedding I don’t even know if they will come as they don’t communicate.
Secondly I don’t have alot of friends.
Thirdly if I have a wedding i just want it to be ordinary. I don’t think it should be a big party with wild drinking and everyone going wild, which by the way many people find boring.
Fourthly , my fiancé‘s family speak a different language from my family and friends so I am worried about things being awkward.
Fifthly the wedding is going to be held in his home country,again language issues when it comes to planning it.
I keep telling him I don’t want one but he insists we should, that it is nice to share your marriage with others.
However I am afraid it will be boring and lame, however he doesn’t care.
I don’t think he realizes all the details that need to go into a wedding to make it good.
I think he just want to show up have the ceremony and some food and have it done and over with.
However , I think when you have a destination wedding you have to make it attractive so people will want to come or that it would be worth it for them to come.
What do you think.? What should I do? The venue is already booked by him.
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Compromise, find a middle ground where you can both be somewhat happer than you might be had only one of you got your way.
I think you have a simple destination wedding n his home country. Only the most functional in your family wll get their act together to attend, and the ones who don’t won’t be an issue. Ask his mother (and or sisters) to handle all the planning. Tell her you will show up with your dress. She will have a blast and you will have endeared yourself to her for life.
A wedding doesn’t have to be a big production. My parents got married in a small room with only their parents present.
Are you sure that you should marry this man who apparently cares nothing for your wishes?
Have exactly the kind of wedding you want. It really should be something you’re comfortable with… He’s gotta understand your POV.
However do consider the impact on the in-laws, how much you may wish to relate to them in the future could be affected by this ‘first impression’.
My first wedding sucked, I mean it was beautiful and all that we sweet young’uns were wed and all, but we were pressured/shamed into having an event when we really wanted to go to a local mountaintop with minimal minister & witnesses. That relationship didn’t work out on the long haul but it was not because of the wedding.
My second wedding was the sort we both wanted in collaboration, it was extraordinary and I think everybody who was invited came and enjoyed it too.
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