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Is it wrong for me to keep the left over grant money?

Asked by chelle21689 (7907points) November 14th, 2011

My dad paid for my classes and books. Financial aid came in (grants) and it seems to cover my tuition for me. I plan to give my dad the total amount of money he paid for. I seem to have a few hundred dollars left over though. Is it okay if I keep it or do I have to give it to my dad?
My brother keeps his left over money instead of giving it to my dad. My dad doesn’t say anything. But a year ago when I received a check my dad yelled at me to give it to him lol.

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tom_g's avatar

Ask your dad.

bobby78's avatar

Depends on how you feel about it, if it feels right keep it if not, then give it back
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chelle21689's avatar

lol I don’t see anything wrong in paying my dad back and giving him an extra amount of money while keeping some of it.

Blackberry's avatar

I would pay him back, that’s just my opinion, though.

marinelife's avatar

I would keep it if your dad has been paid back. he is not entitled to a profit.

flutherother's avatar

Offer it to your father when he is in a very good mood and he might say keep it.

tom_g's avatar

I don’t know. My parents never paid a dime for my college education, but this seems pretty clear to me. The financial transaction is between your dad and the college. It seems that you have very little to do with this other than to pass on to him any relevant information having to do with school finances. This seems relevant to me.

So, it only seems correct that he should know about his financial dealings at least as much as fluther. And what father wouldn’t just say, “keep it”? Honesty is always the best route in my opinion.

tedd's avatar

Grant money is also supposed to cover living expenses.

So assuming you aren’t squandering that money on something stupid, I would not feel bad about continuing to use it… Unless it’s stipulated somewhere that you’re supposed to give it back if not used for a specific purpose.

chelle21689's avatar

The check is under my name. My brother keeps the extra money and my dad doesn’t say anything. Seems like a double standard, lol. But I think I’ll give my dad some extra and some for me. I usually spend my money on food anyways…I rarely go shopping ever.

YARNLADY's avatar

@chelle21689 Give it back to Dad. Maybe his answer to brother will be contained in the will.

wundayatta's avatar

It depends on your relationship with your father financially. Is he paying for college and that’s it? Does he pay for your incidentals—eating out, etc? Or is that from your own money? If you see leftover money from grants as part of what he pays, then I guess the money should go back to him, and then he can say “keep it” or not. If he gives you money to live on, then I would assume that it’s part of that.

To be safe, try to give it back. If he takes it back, I’d be surprised, unless we’re talking about more than $300. I know that if my daughter tried to give it back to me, I’d tell her to keep it.

Ponderer983's avatar

I would pay your Dad whatever he is owed (legitimately) and keep the rest fro yourself. You are the one smart enough to have earned that money, so why shouldn’t the extra be yours? And like @marinelife said, he’s not entitled to make a profit!

martianspringtime's avatar

I don’t think it’s wrong. You put in for the grant for yourself, not for him. Lovely if you do give him the extra as well, but you’re not obligated to.

I have some extra money from my financial aid as well. I live with my mom, and I tell her to use it for whatever she needs it for. She buys me things anyway (necessities and otherwise), and with me being 18 she really doesn’t have to, so I feel I owe it to her. She tells me to keep it, but we usually just put it toward general use – bills, food, general shopping, whatever.

chelle21689's avatar

My dad pays for bills, but I think I’m going to give him some and keep most of it. One of the main reasons is because he spends it on his two brothers (my lazy uncles) that waste his money away. My mom and dad get into arguments about my father taking money from our trust fund to help their lazy a$$es lol so I’ve settled it, I’m keeping most of it but paying my dad back and giving a bit extra

perspicacious's avatar

I think you should give it to your dad. What kind of grant is this?

chelle21689's avatar

pell grant and some other grant i forget the name

perspicacious's avatar

So the grants were/are not based on income.

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