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If a guy always answers your text messages and emails very quickly, does that mean he is into you?

Asked by partyrock (3863 points ) December 8th, 2011

If a guy always answers your emails, messages, and text messages right away (like within seconds or a few minutes) does it mean that he is into you ? Or does it just mean he is quick to respond? We’ve been talking for about 3 months, and during those times he’s always responded quickly at lightning speed.

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CWOTUS's avatar

Possibly. Maybe. Probably. What’s of far more import, though, is the content of his messages. And more important than that is the entire body of his behavior.

partyrock's avatar

@CWOTUS – You mean like how he acts during when we talk ?

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

He’s “into you” when he asks you out for a date, and wants to spend special time with you that texting can’t provide. Responding at “lightning speed” in texting only means he doesn’t have anything better to do at the moment, and he enjoys the attention.

partyrock's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies The ball is in my court to meet, but I’ve told him I don’t want to meet up until I get my driver’s license and a car. Does that mean that even when I’ve been talking to him for 3 or 4 months and each time he answers quickly? Could it mean he’s been bored the entire time for those months?

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Why not ask him? After months of this I’d have guessed you two would have discussed it by now.

partyrock's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies – Ask him if he likes me or why he always responds quickly?

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Do you like him? Tell him. See how he responds. He may like you, he may be efficient, we can’t tell you the answer…. but he can.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

He obviously likes you.

everephebe's avatar

Text him this as a question. See how fast he responds.

partyrock's avatar

@everephebe – Hahaha. Ok I will. lol.

Haleth's avatar

When someone likes you, they’ll often find ways to be around you or talk to you as much as they can. If he’s quick to respond, he could just be prompt or bored. But if the two of you have long intimate talks or if he’s starting a lot of the conversations, there might be something there.

partyrock's avatar

@Haleth – Is it a possibility that he could just be prompt to respond for all those months me and him have been talking? It’s been 3 or 4 months, but is there a possibility he could respond fast and just like me as a friend ?

WestRiverrat's avatar

He could just answer his texts when he gets them so that he doesn’t forget to answer them later. Or he could be into you, ask him.

everephebe's avatar

You are over thinking this. Unless you enjoy drama, just ask him if he fancies you.

zenvelo's avatar

I think he likes you, and he is into you. And he is biding his time until you get your license.

Other wise he would have lost interest in you long ago and would have just stopped answering you.

zensky's avatar

He could be respectful, or perhaps he has an ADD thing going on – and wants to focus only on thetask at hand. Or he’s into you. When someone texts me repeatedly, it’s like a conversation. You don’t pause too long in a conversation do you?

jerv's avatar

OCD is another possible explanation.

zensky's avatar

True dat.

Marchofthefox's avatar

It all depends. Does he flirt with you? If you like him, I wish you the best of luck!

partyrock's avatar

@projectilevomit – I’m not sure if either me and him really flirt, since we speak like friends, but there is an attraction (I would say) because we both talk to each other a lot.. at least I would hope so :) and thank you. He told me I was beautiful once when we were messaging, so that’s the most direct I’ve gotten from him. and from me to him, I don’t really flirt bluntly.

partyrock's avatar

@projectilevomit – I haven’t met him yet, so it’s only been over the phone and messaging that we communicate. Until I get my license. I would think there would be an attraction because then he wouldn’t want to meet right? I don’t know. lol.

rts486's avatar

Not necessarily, he may simply be organized.

CWOTUS's avatar

Nobody flirts bluntly; that’s not flirting.

AnonymousWoman's avatar

In my experience, yes, that’s what it usually seems to mean.

If he is not, for some reason, into you in the way that you hope, remember that he seems to at least be interested in talking to you. He also seems to view you as an attractive woman based on one of the comments you left.

AshlynM's avatar

It’s hard to tell. The only way to know for sure is to kiss him or hold his hand. If he doesn’t back away, then I’d say he’s into you then.

plethora's avatar

I am a quick responder. When I get a text (from anyone) I respond immediately. It means absolutely nothing except that I cannot let a fresh text lie unanswered. It may even be OCD behavior.

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