Is it easier to declare oneself a lesbian or to declare oneself a gay male?
I admire a person who does either. I am not trying to foster division. I am interested in those who have come out, and their opinions as to the differences that might have been if their genders had been swapped.
A huge point of curiosity is as follows: If you occasionally find the same gender attractive do you feel you have to identify yourself as gay to help the movement?