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How much would your life change, if you changed your thinking?

Asked by CuriousLoner (1796 points ) August 5th, 2012

I ask this question because I started reading a book titled “How successful people think” in which below it says “Change your thinking, change your life” Typically don’t care for books of this type if you will. For whatever reason I thought what the heck, why not? What is it going to hurt?

After going through and answering the questions and journal parts of it, I was struck by how true it really is. Your thinking is a massive part of your life.

If you were to change your thinking how would change your life? Do you believe people can truly change the way they think? How long does it take to expand one’s thinking?

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ZEPHYRA's avatar

It would make a 180 degree turn, it would probably change my destiny and get me unstuck, but there seems to be NO way to set it into effect. So, I am stuck in the mud!

athenasgriffin's avatar

I have changed my thinking a lot. I used to be angry and sad because I thought of myself as not in control of my destiny, as the sort of person who deserved to be angry and sad. Now I’m mostly calm, still crazy as a mad hatter, but never angry and rarely sad. What is there to be angry about when you are the one who brought every event to your doorstep? Who is there to be angry at but yourself, and what is the point of self-loathing?

Shippy's avatar

I do believe there is something in it. Currently I am very negative and it’s almost like I am caught in a negative self propelling ball of fear. It is human nature to calculate how things turn out, so if you do this and that, and receive zero result it starts off a train of bad thinking. Some may call it bad thinking some may call it good logic. However, I have in periods of my life forced myself to turn my thinking around with really good results. It is hard work, but does get easier. I think the easier part happens when good things happen and you find life a bit more pleasant’ it is a rebound type of effect. When I earned a lot of money and didn’t worry about money so much for example I had loads of money almost thrown at me. Now that I keep worrying about it, it is dwindling faster than I can think. Thank you for reminding me that thoughts can change your life. They have changed mine before, but my thoughts are a bit like untamed horses I have to pull in the reigns now and then.

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kess's avatar

Yes it is absolutely right….changing your thinking changes your life…but…
You can forever be changing your thinking and never once think right.
Thus problems continue.

For example, I can publish a book to give you step by step instructions of how changing your thinking affects your life…but the purpose of writing the book is merely for profit, so therefore back to square one where everything I do amounts for monetary benefits for myself.

gailcalled's avatar

I stopped being sulky, angry, resentful and anxious. It has made a huge difference.

My life is the same but I feel content and calm and pleased to wake up each morning.

downtide's avatar

It totally does. I can’t pinpoint what caused me to change my thinking but I did, a few years ago, and it’s made a huge difference in my life. I came to the realisation that on the whole, most things work out okay in the end, with a bit of effort, and that there is nearly always something I can do to help improve it. So I took control of my life, quit my job and found another, and I’ve not looked back since.

Mariah's avatar

I have made huge changes two distinct times.

First, when I was 14. The change from middle school to high school helped me change my thinking. I was a very angry person prior. Everything my peers did just bothered me. I was extremely judgmental too. I thought that anyone who drank or did anything sexual at my age was a terrible person. Going to high school helped in that the large majority of people I was around were older than me, so I got over my stupid superiority complex. I calmed down and eventually stopped worrying myself over what other people chose to do. I now have a neutral opinion towards all victimless behavior.

I made another big change last year, when I was 19. I’ve always been an anxious and perfectionistic person. Going through surgeries put things in perspective. Nothing seems like a big deal in comparison to getting all those surgeries anymore. I’ve learned the value of being kind to myself, and I have cut myself some slack on my overly ambitious goals. I’m more relaxed and appreciative of the little things in life now.

You can absolutely make a change when you want to. In my experience, it’s easier when spurred on by a change in your circumstances, but it’s definitely doable. I’ve benefited enormously from my changes. I would hate to be the person I was at 18 or 13 ever again.

harple's avatar

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is all about changing your thinking in order to change your life.

hearkat's avatar

It worked for me! I practiced mindfulness and gratitude, and made an effort to seek out the positive and/or to find the silver lining in the tough times. I let go of the illusion of control, and embraced the reality that the only thing we can control is what we do with this exact moment – we can’t change the past, and we can hope that our actions in this moment will leave us with minimal regrets in the unpredictable future. It was a relief to not stress about all the stuff that is completely out of my hands.

Paradox25's avatar

Well I’ve changed my thinking, but in the sense that I realize I need to accept myself for what I am regardless of what others think of me, that I need to stop being a people pleaser, and that my most important goals in life are not materialistic. I try to do the little things that make a difference in others lives. I’ve learnt the hard way that attempting to change yourself or putting up facades has never worked for me. Also, I wasn’t happy with the latter anyways.

I do try to look at the bright side, even in tough times, and I do try to find the good in others. However, I’m also a realist, and many times you do have to be aware of the bad side of many people and life in general as well. It was the spiritual teachings that I’ve read by White Eagle and Silver Birch that have helped me greatly, not self-help advice or religion.

Unbroken's avatar

Lol I like your questions curious loner… well change happens with mental growth you can stimulate it or guide it. But it depends on how many tools you use and how motivated you are. So completely up to you. As unhelpful as that is. : )

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