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Are you self-centered or are you willing to give and share?

Asked by Highbrow (366 points ) December 9th, 2012

1)Are you the type who will bend over backwards for others until it hurts or do you merely look out for #1?
2)Do your actions personify your self-centered or selfless nature?

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marinelife's avatar

I’m a sharer.

filmfann's avatar

I am filled with self loathing, which prevents me from being self centered. I’m a giver.

Coloma's avatar

I enjoy giving and sharing comes easily to me, however, I am not a codependent people pleaser.
I choose when and how and who and what I give and do not do things out of a sense of duty or obligation.
I don’t have a high need to be appreciated or for ego strokes and my identity is not contingent on being seen in any particular light.

Shippy's avatar

I am learning day by day to put me as No.1. Since without me, there is nothing. If that makes sense. I used to give too much, time, money effort to others. And little to me. I’d like to say in the latter parts of my life I know better. But it will be a daily effort and reminder for me.

JenniferP's avatar

If I like you, I am sharing.

Unbroken's avatar

I used to be a sharer and often a doormat.
Now I aim for a happy medium.

Bill1939's avatar

I try to be more a giver and less a taker. I believe that the more I think of myself the more I loose sight of things of importance.

burntbonez's avatar

I am very much willing to give and share. But I am not self sacrificing. I am also willing to let other people give to me. I believe in giving to those who need it and to those who can give me what I want, too.

YARNLADY's avatar

I am very self-centered. I love the feeling I get when I give and share. If it made me feel bad, I probably wouldn’t do it, but it make me feel very good.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’d say I’m more of 1 than 2 but I do both.

wundayatta's avatar

I’m both. I’ve learned that if I try to give others what they want, they are more likely to give me what I want. But I also find it is a pleasure to help others. And thanks are often plenty of a payback. There are a few people who show thanks in a very concrete way, and that, of course, is what I live for. Love is not selfless. It is reciprocal. That is, reciprocity seems to work best in building strong loves and strong relationships.

Berserker's avatar

’‘takes everything in this thread’’


I share and give, never had a problem with that. Will I bend over and give absolutely everything, and go out of my way to please people? Fuck no. But I like offering and helping with what I have, if people want or need it. Think of me as like, a motel or something.

also lol, bend over

McCool's avatar

I always help others out in any way I can, and try my best to be giving and selfless. But, I would be lying if I didn’t admit that I can be pretty self-centered at times.

wundayatta's avatar

@Symbeline So you’re volunteering to bed over? What do you expect me to do? Spank you?

Sounds like too much work. I’m gonna go get me a latte, instead.

JenniferP's avatar

After being taken advantage of by family members who were users I am less of a giver than I used to be. Now I make you prove yourself.

wundayatta's avatar

Prove myself? Nope. I’m not spanking you, either, @JenniferP ;-) I’m going to get a latte. Sheesh. Do they think my arms are endless founts of strength? Read my lips. Not. Gonna. Spank!

Berserker's avatar

@wundayatta ’‘steals your latte’’ MINE!

burntbonez's avatar

Anyone remember the rugrats cartoon?

Berserker's avatar

Yeah. I watched it all the time, it was awesome. ^^

wundayatta's avatar

Figures. :P

JenniferP's avatar

@wundayatta-I have no idea what you are talking about that you aren’t spanking me but I guess that is good. I don’t want to be spanked.

burntbonez's avatar

I’m not a fan.

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