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Has a jealous ex-boyfriend made life hell for you with your new partner?

Asked by ZEPHYRA (15187 points ) January 24th, 2013

How far could a man like that possibly carry things? Does he stand anywhere legally? Should you feel bad for moving on with your life?

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wundayatta's avatar

No. A man like that could go quite far. You might need a restraining order. He could get violent.

I don’t know what legal standing you think he might have, but if you feel in danger from him, inform the police and ask about how to get a restraining order.

Of course you shouldn’t feel bad about moving on. The man is obsessed. He has mental problems. But you can’t tell him that. Still, he needs help.

Bellatrix's avatar

Yes. My ex husband was quite vindictive.

How far can they take things? It depends on your circumstances and the person. In this case I spent a lot of time talking to lawyers and dealing with the courts and child support agency. Over and over again. Cost us a lot of money.

Legal standing again depends on specific situations. In my experience, the law is not always logical and you need to make sure you get good advice, prepare well and don’t expect your ex to play fair or be honest. I had situations where in court he would lie and I had to defend myself against total untruths.

No, relationships don’t always work out. It can take people time to move on and some people may have to be forced to move on. That’s where restraining orders and the like come in. If you feel unsafe at all. Even just that niggling feeling that the person might harm you, listen and take action. Speak to the police or a lawyer. My experience is it is better to be informed of your rights before you need to use them.

Don’t ignore your instincts.

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