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(NSFW) Have you ever been lonely and want to be alone at the same time?

Asked by talljasperman (17847 points ) March 14th, 2014

I have mixed emotions. I am confused at the same time. I’m not going for a walk today. I will stay at home and on the internet.

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talljasperman's avatar

O.k. I made some garlic bread and I had some coke zero I feel better.

Brian1946's avatar

Pro tip on your OP details: TMI.

And now for TMI from me: yes, on some occasions when I’ve made love to my hand. ;-)

livelaughlove21's avatar

Sure. It’s like being bored but not wanting to get up and do anything. Or being hungry but not being able to think of something you’d like to eat.

GloPro's avatar

Sometimes you decide the people at your disposal for company are not necessarily the people you would like to hang out with. Time to make new friends.

talljasperman's avatar

@GloPro I just cooked some BBQ chicken in the microwave and ate the thighs… and I have another coke zero in my fridge.

GloPro's avatar

Koo-koo-katchew. I have those nights, too! Sometimes it’s just what the doctor ordered, huh?

ucme's avatar

First thing that entered my mind due to the wording of the question.

Winter_Pariah's avatar

Yes, mixed feelings are common with me especially the combination of desiring company yet wanting the universe and everything in it to go away. I just then keep myself to myself and let the masks I wear take care of day to day shenanigans.

Haleth's avatar

Oh, totally. Loneliness has nothing to do with the amount of people around. It’s more like, “I’d love to have a long and understanding talk with someone who cares.” Out of all the people you might meet over a lifetime, maybe a handful are like that. The rest of the time, you have to navigate small talk, not knowing people well, maybe accidentally offending them, trying to start conversations, not having much in common, etc. When you’re socializing, you basically have to be your best self. If things go well, usually the best-case scenario is having fun and meeting some pleasant people, not the kind of connection that really matters.

Sometimes, I just feel restless because things aren’t right but there doesn’t seem to be an obvious solution. I’ve met one or two of the other kind of people- the ones who rejuvenate with their presence, instead of making you feel drained. Being around them is as relaxing as being alone, and as exciting as being at a party. Life gets in the way, so we can’t see each other that often, but it’s nice to know they’re out there and there could be more of them. But yeah, I know what you’re talking about.

Because of the way your question is worded, it kinda sounds like you’re talking about, um, harnessing the underwear unicorn. Doing the masonic secret self handshake. Making the bald man cry. Probably too late to edit, but The More You Know.

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