Do any jellies besides me have to divide themselves between two holiday celebrations?

My brother is celebrating Thanksgiving on Saturday, which I will be attending, so that my nephew’s girlfriend and also a cousin can additionally celebrate Thanksgiving on Thursday.

I will spend Christmas and New year with my son and daughter in the UK and Chinese New Year with my wife in China.

I have always been very grateful that I don’t have this situation. The closest I come is multiple holiday parties during December.

My parents for several years came to my house for Thanksgiving, and when they did that meant my husband and I weren’t going to his parents. It was one or the other or sometimes neither and just stay home or some years Thanksgiving near home with friends.

On the rare occasion that my parents were in town for Christmas and I was living near my inlaws, we all went to my inlaws for Christmas.

My parents are Jewish and my husband’s parents are Catholic, so I don’t need to deal with celebrating Christmas in two places.

There were years we had Christmas a week early, because my husband’s niece and nephew would fly to Italy for Christmas to be with their dad’s side of the family. That’s how we dealt with them juggling Christmas with both sides of the family.

Always, it used to be between my two grandparents, and by the time they were gone, it became between my wife’s family and mine. We host her side now. That goes for Christmas as well.

We worked it out to have one the Sunday before the holiday and one on day of.

When I was young, we used to try to split time between families. It was a pain in the butt. Now that I’m older, our daughter is now married to a very nice guy. His family wants them over for all holidays as do we. But I have told them that they really need to consider staying together and choosing one or the other for the various holidays. Yes, I want them here for Christmas but if they go to his parents house that is fine too. It would be less stress on them and less stress on a relatively new marriage. They are expecting a baby too and when that baby is born, they need to show family is important. Splitting up for the holidays or rushing around and limiting time with everyone doesn’t show this.

I have the opposite problem. Both my sons and their families live far away and we don’t spend holidays together. I “make do” with cousins or friends but it is a bit of a sad time for me.

Too much family is a good problem to have.

I almost wish I did. Our family has really shrunk over the past couple years. Mom and dad passed away 2 years ago and now my brother and his wife have moved to Texas which is too far to travel for me. We will be a pretty small group tomorrow.

@Blackwater_Park I don’t think the OP is lamenting too much family.

I love the multi experience of many families. Due in part by being in a large family this has been the way for me always.
Also add in the multiple religious aspect celebrating with friends on Chanukah.

Thanks, @janbb. I have an irreconcilably divided family, not an ample one; hence split and rather downbeat celebrations.