Which muscles do you use to hold your bladder?

Kegel exercises could help her.

“Urinary incontinence -The consequences of weakened pelvic floor muscles may include urinary or bowel incontinence, which may be helped by therapeutic strengthening of these muscles. A meta-analysis of randomized controlled trials by the Cochrane Collaboration concluded that “PFMT [Pelvic floor muscle training] be included in first-line conservative management programmes for women with stress, urge, or mixed, urinary incontinence…The treatment effect might be greater in younger women (in their 40’s and 50’s) with stress urinary incontinence alone…”

Yeah that’s what I figured which is why I mentioned my “exercising.”

You use your PC (pubococcygeus) muscles.

Here’s a link to an article by sexologist Dr. Betty Dodson on how to do kegels. (It’s not exactly safe for work though, as one might imagine…)

http://dodsonandross.com/essay/do-i-need-dildo-exercise-my-kegels

I did thousands of kegels, and it didn’t help me one bit :(
When I got my hysterectomy, they had to ‘tack up’ my bladder. That helped, but if I have a bad cough for several days…it’s baaaaack. My pelvic floor is shot after 3 kids.